Why can't I cry?

Losing a child
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Is there something wrong with me? It will be a year on 14th October that I lost my beautiful girl. I hurt constantly, and miss her dreadfully, but I rarely cry. When I do it’s like floodgates opening. I am feeling so guilty about it. Of course I have cried buckets of tears, but I hear of people crying daily, and I don’t. I never look forward to anything, feel any happiness, joy or peace, I just long for her, but I rarely cry. Is there something wrong with me? Thanks for listening xx

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Hi Lydia
Grief is personal to everyone and emotions manifest in different ways. I lost my 22yr old son coming up 2 years on 24th Aug. I feel so many different emotions in the space of a few hours but a deep shock , trauma and profound sadness are always present even if tears flow or not. I also feel extreme anger and disbelief my son is not here in person for me to take care of like I did everyday of his life.

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Hi Jas. Thank you for your response. I am so sorry about your son. I feel all the emotions inside, but we can’t cry all the time can we. Thinking of you x

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Those who can’t cry are emotionally traumatised. Crying can be a release but unfortunately some people, me included, seldom cry.

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I’ve lost two husbands, a child and a grandson and sadly my tears have evaporated over the years

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Look after yourself, eat healthily and walk