I lost my mother 2yrs ago unexpectedly. She was my dad’s full time carer and now I gave up work to care for him. My dad has been ill for sometime so I mentally prepared myself that he would not be here forever but my mother was not elderly and I did not see it coming. 2 yrs on and it feels like yesterday. My mum was my best friend and I lived with my parents my whole life and now there is this black hole in my heart and life. I find myself worrying abour losing my dad as I can not face another death. The hospital, the funeral but most importantly this feeling of emptiness.
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Hello @Diana54 ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your mother. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
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Thank you for your kindness and the information.
@Diana54 I saw your post and sad you’re on this grief journey.
I saw your post and wanted to send a virtual hug.
I lost my mum 10 weeks ago and dad suddenly 9 days ago. I understand your fear for your dad. Cherish every moment where you can. Rob x
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Thank you everyone for your replies and I will respond individually but I also lost my brother suddenly 3 weeks ago so the cycle begins again and I don’t know what to say
I am so very sorry for the loss of your brother, so soon after the loss of your Mum. You don’t need to know what to say, we’re here on the forum whenever you are ready. Know that you are not alone.
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I lost my mum 7 years ago and grief is a journey. It has no time limit you might have good and bad days. At the moment I’m having lots of bad days but what I hold to my heart is the so many good memories I hold onto them for dear life. You will find a way to cope it’ll take time
@Diana54
I think who’s next, I know that sounds harsh, but its true. I lost my sister three weeks ago and although i have people around me i feel lonely and very tired. I feel this way now, god knows how ill feel losing a parent. Im so sorry for your loss and what your going through. I dont think grief end’s we just learn to adapt x