I lost my mom on 15th December 2023. All my life she had been in and out of hospital with asthma and the COPD. This last year I think she spent more time in hospital than out. I feel guilty that I am not constantly crying or feeling sad. Is it wrong that I am coping ‘well’ with her death?
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We all handle grief differently and there’s no right or wrong way to do it. Since she was ill for so long I imagine you have grieved beforehand too, what they call anticipatory grief. Don’t beat yourself up over it, how much or how little you cry is no measurement of how much you loved her. 
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Thank you. Sometimes I feel people are judging me on how I am handling this peroid. For example I went back to work after a few days
People can be like that. It’s annoying and sometimes hurts, but the best thing to do is to ignore it. Only you can decide what works for you.
I’d say good luck to anybody who thinks they know how they’d react in grief! Nobody knows until it hits. I would never have foreseen the levels of confusion, anxiety ,numbness, physical or mental reactions that have come as part of the grief I have experienced. You can only go along with whatever comes your way, you may find things change for you as it’s early days, you may find they don’t. Be kind to yourself and try not to Let the guilt in too much!