Christmas is looming for the 4th year without my stepdad. I’m not looking forward to it at all. It’s just the silence that hurts the most. How can so much energy and life just turn to dust literally. I hate this ongoing feeling.
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I am so sorry that you are mourning your step-father. I am so sorry he died. I know you are sad and confused. His energy is his soul and he still lives in spirit. The body is just a vessel for the soul.
Talk to him out loud, ask him to send you a sign that it is okay to celebrate Christmas again. Ask him if he will be there too. See what happens. You might be surprised.
Love.
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I’ll give it a go. I’m not religious but understand we are a bit like stardust and the energy gets transferred back into the earth. I think. Even if that’s not directly true I guess it helps. Death is so mean to the one’s left behind. My autism makes it so much harder. I’m not downplaying anybody and their grief. But my emotions always are so massive.
Hello @Jembella ,
I’m so sorry to hear about your stepdad. You may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also want to read out article on coping with grief around Christmas.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Abi
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Thank you. It’s a 12 week waiting list for the counselling. Started the SMS text service yesterday etc. I guess the direct answer is I just want my stepdad to come home. But life doesn’t do that