Why do friends send photos of their amazing holiday whilst you are sat at home on your own thinking about the loss of life and future
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Their lives have not changed, they can ignore the fact that, as a couple, one of them will have to go what we are going through, people do not understand that not only you lose your loved one, you lose all of the things you used to do together, holidays etc.
Stay strong.
Best wishes.
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I lost my husband nearly 4 months ago. As you say you also lose your life, your holidays , going somewhere as a couple. I totally resent hearing about couples going away on holiday. Yet it is not their fault, they are lucky to be able to do it.
I find it very hard to do things on my own.
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My Peter died 16 months ago very suddenly last summer I was just numb with shock,but this summer everyone telling me about their wonderful holidays has really got me down,I don’t begrudge them it but really don’t want it rubbing in that I’m just sat here alone nobody seems to realise how hard it is.Last weekend some of my family texted me to say they would come and tell me all about their holiday,I replied I’m sure your busy don’t put yourself out .That wasbecause I find it so depressing listening to it all anyway they came and spent two hours telling me all about their wonderful holiday it depressed me for the rest of the weekend.
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I dont think its the fact they are holidaying ,that makes it sad its the fact where we cant do it as we’ve lost our partners and they still have theirs and it hits us of our loss even more…if that makes sense
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Yes it does, we have to do it on our own while they still have their partners. And that makes you feel very alone
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I feel the same and, although I’ve always felt pleased for other people’s happy times, I now feel jealous and really don’t want to see holiday photos.
I don’t think people mean to upset anyone but guess that unless you have been through the loss of your husband or wife, it wouldn’t register how insensitive it would be.
As daft and selfish as it sounds, I am looking forward to the holiday season being over!
Sending love to all of you when you’re feeling lonely xx
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Yes that’s so true and people don’t know how hard it hurts ,I guess I never did either before all this.
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True, it is only now that I realise how painful it can be
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Understand how you feel. We were always the ones going on holiday and now nothing. An empty future.
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