Why?

Losing a partner
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Hello
I have just joined as I am feeling very helpless. My fiance died 6 days ago of a sudden heart attack. We have been together only 2.5 years, but were beyond happy. I am 59 and he was 62. What I want to know is why? Why so young? Why did we only have a short time together? It’s beyond unfair

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It’s so unfair, isn’t it? It happened to me almost a year ago. We had been friends for 3 years and together for 13 months. I was 60, he was 61. Just when you have found the one you never thought you’d find, bang, they’re gone.

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I lost the love of my life in September to the “widow maker” heart attack. In May this year he was told he had early onset angina but his heart was fine! September he was gone! It is now under serious investigation as he should really have been admitted in may and had a bypass, but no! He believed everything was ok! Two days before he passed I said I was worried he was going to have a heart attack and die! He rolled his eyes at me and said the drs and the hospital say my heart is fine! I am so angry! And since new year! Since leaving him behind in 2024 I am not coping!

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Hi Jill i am so sorry for your loss, i too lost my soulmate back in October, she suffered with various ling and chest problems and it was in and out of hospital for several years. this time i believe she was taken into hospital too late and the drs didnt spot the infection that was raging for a couple of weeks and when she was eventually taken in it was too late, our own drs missed the infection a few weeks earlier, the nhs is breaking down and letting us all down. I understand your anger its the same here. i try to rationalise it but find it difficult to comprehend. Im currently writing a journal each day to her and have a table in front of me with 2 pictures of me and her with a candle lit every day, this gives me some comfort and am able to tell her how im feeling each day and what im doing. I have also put together a photo album of our life together from when me met. i wish you the strength to get through this pain