Widowed at 41

Losing a partner
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I’m really struggling with the loss of my husband best friend and soul mate , it’s been 2 weeks and my emotions are all over the place I’m only 41 and he was 45 I nursed him till the end he had cancer I just feel so alone, numb and sad I have two boys 15 and 17 and even looking at them makes me cry to think they will never see there dad again. These long dark nights and weekends are the hardest. Will I ever stop crying :cry: I’m dreading his funeral as I know he will be gone completely then.

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I am so sorry Lucy. This is absolutely horrible for you.

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Dear Lucy, I am so so sorry to hear of your loss. My heart breaks for you and what you are having to go through. Losing a husband and soulmate is one of the hardest things ever. Your emotions will be everywhere, but you will get through for your sons’ sakes.
The shock and numbness you are feeling will help you through more than you realise. It is a protective mechanism while we gradually come to terms with what has happened.

It’s not easy to do, but try your best to look after yourself and eat when you can, even if it’s not much. And cry all you need to… sending you love xx

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@Lucy280883
Lucy
I am so very sorry. It is really soon after your loss, and it is only to be expected that your emotions will be all over the place. You’ll be in shock and very numb. Just take it slowly and don’t look too far ahead just yet.
It’s so horribly hard to lose a life partner at your young age.
There is a support group I came across that is specifically for younger people (I’m too old for it). When you are ready, have a look at it. Hopefully there will be relevant support for you available.

But everyone here will listen too and try and support you.
Much love.

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So very sorry for your loss.
sending love and hug :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

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So sorry. I feel your pain. Its unfair and it hurts and its awful. Im in my 40s too and an 8 year old and feel so sad that she won’t get to know her amazing daddy.
Im sure you’ve done all that you could have and its exhausting. Now its even more tiring. I have no advise other than just one day at a time. Someone said we grief and tears is the price for loving someone. Take care. Message if you want. I found this sometimes to be a release, to just write something when I cannot understand whats happened and feel alone and am trying daily fpr the little one…Sending hugs xx

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Thank you for your kind replies I guess I just need to take each day as it comes