Thank you yes, having found a small local bereavement group is good for me too but I don’t feel there is enough local bereavement groups, .But I really hope you can find a way forward, it’s such a tough journey going forward with out him, although I believe he is on the best place , no more suffering,no more pain , but just expected those few more years to share his dreams ,his thoughts ,our life together,but treatment failed .
But I hope you manage to find support through family and friends x tc
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I’m in same position. Lost my husband of 57 years 6 weeks ago tomorrow I held it together but since the funeral it’s so horrible mornings are worse I put radio on can’t stand the quiet I have family but they have to work
This week gone back to vol work cple mornings
I can’t sleep properly I talk to the cat etc
Sorry for yr loss x
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Sorry to hear of your loss ,my thoughts are with you through these very sad times.
We had decided on pure crem , which I believe was the right decision given our circumstances.
I put on such a brave face for him and our 12yr old granddaughter who lives with us,trying to protect them,not showing the stress, the hurt and so much more And now I have fallen apart big time .So many tears ,so much unsaid,we had so many hopes, how does one go forward.
To each and every one of you my heart goes out to you all ,I am so sorry for your losses.
But keep the memories alive , support and care for each other xx
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Hi kidsangel123 - I’m sorry to hear about your husband, that must be so tough after all those years together. Sounds like your granddaughter is bringing you some light in dark times. I lost my mum to Mesothelioma this year. Isn’t it awful and unfair? We don’t even know where here asbestos exposure was as she didn’t work in the industry. It’s some unfortunate comfort to read your story, to know other people are grieving someone they’ve lost to the same illness <3
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Hi Romy mo,
So sorry to hear of your loss, my thoughts are with you .It really is the most toughest things I have ever had to deal with.
yes it truly is an awful disease, despite the treatment it spread so quickly ,taking everything away from him, no quality of life , no dignity ,etc .So sad to watch and see his life pass him by.We had so many hopes, he was 72yrs. He worked for Cape Boards many many years ago , albeit only a short time .
My life we will never ever be the same , I miss him so very much, x
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Allow the memories to come. Treat them like visitors. Some are welcome, some are not. Simply hope that those that are good dwell, and those that are not leave quickly. Live with hope. ×
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@Asters Hi, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss of your wife. It’s devastating isn’t it! I lost my wife in July to cancer and she was only 62! If I’m honest you’ve come to the right place because, as you’ve probably already seen in the replies, everyone is in the same boat. I was with my wife for 36 years and it just devastates your life doesn’t it…. Keep talking to people on the group or contact us directly if you feel you feel that you relate to someone in particular. I’m still fighting it terribly! I had a terrible outburst of grief which I’m not ashamed of when we went to the McMillan ‘Ever After Garden’ in Grosvenor Square, London. I felt so much better for getting some tears out and I’m sure you’ll get the same along the way…. You’ll feel yourself asking the ‘why’ question a lot too! It will ease in time is all I can say but it’s normal. I hope you you don’t end up typing messages at 3am like I am! The grief will mess with you in untold ways but just go with it is the best advice is what I can offer! Don’t suffer alone - we are all here to help! The people on here have helped get me along so far. Christmas is a bad time but I’m trying to do my best for my grown up daughters and Grandchildren as my wife loved it… I’m dreading it secretly and curse every time I hear Christmas carols/songs…… anyway stay safe and keep talking to everyone here. Derek
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Ever After Garden