Hi I am a widower of 4 years my wife passed away I November 2020 at 56 I just can’t get over this every night I say good night to here I think about her every day I can’t bring myself to change anything in the house and when I try to my son how lives with me says no and I don’t want to upset him he is 32 and has social anxiety I am so lonely the only think I have is my work to make it worse I lost my mother 2 years after my wife I am stuck in a hole and can’t get out 
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I’m so sorry for the loss of your wife, @scottyni. You are not alone - many of our members have experienced the death of their wife and will understand what you’re going through.
I’m just going to move your thread to our Losing a partner section so you can get the support that you need. Take good care and keep reaching out,
Seaneen
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Hi @scottyni
There is no timeline in grief and everything you feel is normal. You don’t get over it, you learn with time to function, adjust and adapt. It is however easy to become stuck because grieving is emotionally and physically draining and hard to motivate ourselves. Sometimes we all need a little help, encouragement and support. Do you have other family and friends who you can reach out to? Talking about how we feel can help and also being kind to ourselves, getting out for a walk or a trip somewhere nice. Small steps leader to bigger ones
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Thank for the reply other family members to wrapped up in there own life’s never seen them I have my buses pass now so will try getting out and about on days off instead of lying in bed or sitting in the house I am waiting on some counseling through Dr but over a year now
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I understand that feeling, it’s hard but at least you have your work and a son. I don’t even have that, I get by most days listening to the radio. I had to come off work as I was diagnosed with Myeloma Cancer back in June and lost my mum who I lived with August 23. I think there should be a single friends group on here just to support people like us as we all very different types of creatures. Sorry for your loss mate.
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I also say goodnight to my wife every night and speak to her in the mornings she passed 26 months ago
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@scottyni it is so hard to loss them so early . My husband was 58 and died suddenly in may last year . I feel for you my son is the same . He doesn’t want me to move any of my husbands things . It’s a difficult road we are on . Christmas ramps up the pain for me . We are away for it . The same last year
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Thank you yes it is hard to get your day in especially if you have ill health yourself it is not easy and I to am sorry for your loss er just go from day to day x
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Hi scottyni,
I am so sorry for the loss of your wife and your mother. My wife Lillian died suddenly two months ago at the age of 57.
It has left me absolutely devastated and I think about her every minute of every day. I have no family for support so I am left to cope with this nightmare on my own. The loneliness is horrendous.
I feel trapped in the situation I now find myself in. Lillian was everything to me, she was all I lived for.
I try to get out of the house as much as I can in the hope that I can get out of this pit of despair but I don’t know what to do. I am 58 years old and feel that time is running out for me and limiting my options.
I know none of this helps but I understand how you feel. Being on this forum has been a great help to me. Everyone is so kind and supportive and they have got me through some very dark days. I accept that I am going to live with the pain of losing Lillian for the rest of my life. I just need to find a way of coping with it.
That’s all we can do
I’m so sorry you lost your wife I know how you feel I lost my Fiance in may this year my first Christmas without him he was 49 I miss him like so much it’s like there is a hole in my heart I feel like a dagger going through my heart. I feel lost everyday I talk to him everyday wrote him letters say goodnight to him I miss him so much it is so hard so I sympathise with how your feeling I too can’t change a thing I have left it all I feel for you I don’t feel like I belong anywhere x