Thank you all for your kind words. We have great friends and family who have been super supportive so far, they won’t leave us alone (which is great). And to my new friends on this site- thank you
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I’m sorry to hear that. My husband also had end of life care at home and died 5months ago 7 weeks after diagnosis
My big regret is that we didn’t speak about things while he was still lucid. I don’t think either of us believed it was happening
If I had any advice it would be to talk, talk about your future and requests they might have for the funeral
We didn’t take the chance and now it’s gone forever
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As soon as my husband and I were told he had days to live I asked what he wanted for his funeral. It seemed a bit cold in a way. He had exactly what he wanted. Cremated, a christian funeral, albatross played as a recessional, all things bright and beautiful as a hymn, no flowers, donations to 3 charities. In fact he got something else he would have wanted. Transported to the crematorium in a jaguar hearse. He loved jags.
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My thoughts and sympathy go to you and your family. I’m sure like the rest of us on the site you will find it very supportive! J x
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Hi thanks. My wife was quite lucid when on the morphine, and was aware of all of us when with her. We discussed every detail of the future and plans and funeral requests, so we were lucky in that respect. Good advice to discuss things early, so glad we did. She would be angry if I didn’t have plans. Weird I know feel guilty for making plans with her.
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After a couple of days he wasn’t lucid in the morphine. We didn’t talk about my future plans. I have none. I just kept telling him I would manage and not to worry about me. I do manage but it is difficult. He would be proud of the way I have solved problems but not surprised. I really need more help around the house but until probate is done can’t afford it.
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I lost my partner 5th may,was diagnosed with terminal cancer in september 2021,i feel like my life is over,every day is worse than the one before.i feel uour pain.
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My hubby had cancer we were told he had it and give us 4 weeks he passed 3 weeks later night before are wedding anniversary and 9 days before his birthday we were together for 20 years and married for 15 years just had my first year anniversary still like it was yesterday you will have bad days but you will have Good i will always miss him sending a hug
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2 weeks since my wife died, miss her every day. It is hard but we try and manage and carry on, as she told me we must do. At the moment I am keeping busy, but god I miss her. Keep strong people.
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I try every day, but am finding it really hard.
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Sending you love and thinking of you Pearsons66. I’ve witnessed end of life care (Alzheimer’s) and I hope I know how you feel. Allow yourself a little private time to cry, but only when you feel ready and it feels right. We live on as ambassadors for those we love and loved us in return. Our tears, our memories, our reminiscing, our whole life honours those we love.
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Hi-,it’s not easy is it. I know your pain. Big hug to you.
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Thank you so much,hugs to you too.
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