My husband lost his first wife and his adult children haven’t excepted me. Any advise on how to better handle the situation is very much appreciated.
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Hi @hbivans
Welcome to this forum.
…hmmm… I guess in some ways it depends when the loss was, whether it was a long time ago, or more recent, say only a year or 2. Either way, I feel that suffering the loss of a parent is a big new change in anyone’s life, & coming to terms with that loss takes time, but for you it just means a need to be patient with them & hoping they will come around in their own time, on their own terms, but don’t let this affect your happiness with your partner, everyone has a right to love & be loved. As adults, they also have their own lives to lead, though it would be nice for everyone to get along, we all know that it doesn’t always work like that with families, it will take them time to adjust the their “new normal”, but you can’t force it. All I can really suggest right now, is ask your partner to talk to them about their issues, preferably in a calm environment, on neutral ground.
Thank you for the response. It helps to talk about it with others.
Just take ur time
Take it easy and recognize that the kids are kids. It’s got to be very hard on them with such a difficult trauma. They may never totally get over it. That doesn’t mean you are a bad person. Be open when they want to talk and just listen. I think the age of the kids matters, adult is difficult to define. I can’t say I understood much about life until I was in my 30s! Family counseling might be a thought. Lead with love and patience.
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