Work

Losing a partner
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Ah right very similar to my experience been off since September the best thing maybe reduced hours to ease back in my head is still all over the place iam leaving it to long as possible maybe early retirement maybe part time

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@Debbie1966 i went back to work at the nursery in a primary school last monday on a phased return working mornings only. At the moment i feel that is all i can manage. I go home and i am exhusted i feel its because im holding it all in putting on my work face. I have always loved my job but im not sure i have the same passion as i had before. However im trying to push myself to try and get back into a routine but oh my god its hard and i miss my partner when i get home and him not being there to listen to me about what happened during my day.
I go to work with tears in my eyes and come home with tears im my eyes.
I wish everyone well in their journey in returning to work.

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Sorry for you loss. I think a phased return would probably be better but if you are not ready give yourself longer. I didnā€™t get a phased return but I was off 5.5 months. Noone has asked me anything about my husbandā€™s death since I went back. The have on the whole been kind and supportive. A few avoid me but thats how it is, they donā€™t know what to say.
I have made the decision to leave at the end of March at Easter, (it will be a year since my husband died 26th March) and informed them last week. I am going to take early retirement, Iā€™m 55, but Iā€™m not saying I will never work again but for me at the moment just need some time.
Everybody is different and hopefully when you do go back it helps you to get through the months ahead. Hope everything works out for you x

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Thank you all so much for your replyā€™s I hope my boss offers phased return as I feel exhausted just thinking about it. If I really had the choice I would take early retirement Iā€™m 57 but I donā€™t feel this is a choice for me now. I know I will miss him everyday Iā€™m at work knowing heā€™s not going to be waiting for me with a kiss and a cuppa. I get so emotional thinking about it already. I can only try x

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They should offer you a phased return in worlplaces now the well being of their employees should be taken into account.
Im 60 and i have thought retirement is something i am going to think about.
Please take care xx

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How lovely to be able to take 5/6 months compassionate leave. I went back to work after 3 weeks only to find out my colleague in the same team handed in his resignation! These days I am still losing focus while at work now and then. I must be in the wrong industry :sob: