Worried about my parent grieving

Coping with bereavement
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I am heartbroken at loosing my Mum 10 months ago but I am now so worried about my Dad. He is not getting out of bed much as he sees no need. He isn’t eating properly and not taking his regular medication as he should. I think he is giving up. He was married to Mum for 61 years and they did almost everything together and she was his life. He sees no hope or future without her and it’s completely breaking my heart as well as coping with myself grieving for my Mum. I don’t know what to do to help him

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Hello @Poppy8,

Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum. You sound like such a caring person.

When it comes to something as tough as grief, it can be hard to know what to say or do that might help someone you love. Our Grief Kind campaign has lots of resources that can help. You can:

  • Watch our Grief Kind classes. Our Grief Kind classes are five short video tutorials in which Sue Ryder bereavement experts talk you through what grief is like and how you can support others who are grieving.

  • Listen to our Grief Kind podcasts. Our Grief Kind podcasts are hosted by author, journalist and Sue Ryder ambassador, Clover Stroud. She speaks with celebrities about their personal experiences of bereavement and the support which helped them most when coping with their grief.

  • Read our guide on supporting someone else who has been bereaved.

I hope that you find these resources helpful. Please take good care of yourself - the community is here for you too.

Seaneen

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Oh bless. That’s so hard. Just be with him and there for him (which I’m sure you are). He will need to go through the horrible process in his own time. He will need to know that you are there while he does so. He might need to escape from the world for a little bit in order to regain his strength. I was worried about my mum when we lost my dad, but looking back, it was me who stayed in bed for hours.

You mention he’s not taking his medication. Had he said why? Does he have any upcoming appointments, which you could accompany him to and ask the doctor to remind him of the importance?

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