It’s almost a year since I lost my Dad, aged 70, suddenly and unexpectedly. I am lucky to have a loving and supportive husband and children, but I still feel so isolated in my grief. I’m dreading the year mark- I feel guilty that I’ve left Dad behind and that he will never know about the things we are doing or the milestones my sons are achieving. A year on, things feel so raw and unjust.
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Hi Clarence, I am still very new to all this. My dad died 2 months ago, also aged 70 and also very suddenly and unexpectedly. It is actually his 71st birthday today.
I keep a diary, writing to my dad to tell him what I have been up to.
I also have a very supportive family but your relationship with your dad is unique so it’s understandable to still feel isolated. No one can truly understand, they can only empathise based on the relationship they had with him. As long as you are still thinking about him you are not leaving him behind 
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It’s so kind of you to reach out, especially when your own loss is so recent.
The diary is a great idea. I often re- read our final messages and can hear his voice in my mind as I read them. It’s just 2 days now until a year has passed and I’m still not sure what I should be feeling at this point.
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Very well put - as long as you’re still thinking about him you are not leaving him behind.
It’s been 15 months since losing my 76-year old dad suddenly and unexpectedly. If you were to ask me my coping mechanism, it’s believing that he is still with us. Be that in spirit, in my heart… there are enough people around me who love him (everyone who knew him!) for me to think, OK, I know that legally, physically, he’s not with us in the same way as he used to be, but he’s everything to all of us, and death can’t change that.
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