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I am so sorry for your horrendous loss. I can relate to what you are saying. I lost my wonderful Dad in January he had COVID but was getting better we were not allowed to see him I spoke to him constantly on his mobile. Then had a phonecall at 8am in the morning to come to the hospital. Am utterly bereft as you are and blame the hospital. Some people make such insensitive comments. Am so sorry you are going through this. Am being told also how lucky I am to have had !y wonderful Dad xxxx
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Iāve been told Iām lucky too. My daughter died tragically in January and someone kept telling me, in front of my grandkids how lucky I am. Iām not lucky and nor are my grandkids. Iām not sure if people say things without thinking or to make themselves feel better by minimising our loss. You are grieving now cos you lost your dad. Thatās not lucky itās painful and heartbreaking. More thoughtful to say āsorry for your lossā and acknowledge it has been a loss. Sending you kind thoughts.
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Everyone who speaks to me about Nev says I couldnāt have done more for him, but it doesnāt feel like it, that in his last weeks , lack of communication, very few visits. I should have been more forceful but you are fighting against the NHS and they made it so difficult to even get into see him. He was being transferred from one hospital to another for his dialysis, with a fractured back which wasnāt diagnosed for two weeks and the stress of being moved 3 times a week , I think caused him to have cardiac arrest. That is something I know I have to live with, but itās very difficult.
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My heart goes out to you, I believe the hospital caused my husbandās death, like you I feel I should of spoken out more but the hospital staff were so intimidating to me. Itās easy for others to say we mustnāt feel guilty but hind sight is wonderful. Look after yourself and try not to be too hard on yourself.
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Hello Sian,
I am so sorry about your Dad too,itās as though the world has stopped.Have you registered any complaints against the hospital yet?
Malcolm was misdiagnosed and treated for a condition he didnāt have and when Iām told how lucky I was to have such a good relationship with him for thirty nine years I canāt help but feel cross we could have had twenty plus years more.
You will probably still be in a state of shock and when you arenāt itās even worse.If only some people could just ask how we are or can I do anything to help.
You know how lucky you were to have a loving,caring relationship with your Dad and you donāt need to be told.You are grieving a massive loss and now is not the right time to ācount your blessingsā .
Take care of yourself Sian you are suffering alongside so many other people.Keep company with the ones who care about you.Sending you as much love as possible,we will get through this but probably only learn to live with it and it wonāt always be this painful.xx
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I have a very good idea how you feel JackieMy,There are no words that adequately express the sense of guilt and sheer distress we have to face.x