I’m 29 and my husband died two weeks ago aged 32. My whole life feels like it is upside down and I am basically drowning. Some days I feel ok when I’m able to disassociate from everything and keep myself really busy. Other days I’m a complete zombie (brain fog, overly emotional and completely useless).
I feel like everyone around me has someone. Although his family are grieving him too, their day to day lives haven’t changed. I sleep in an empty bed, I eat alone, the house is empty. I don’t have many friends (one to be exact) and I don’t make friends easily.
I don’t even know why I’m writing this, I suppose it’s just nice to get it into words.
I am so very sorry. It is a devastating shock for you. You have come to the right place for support and understanding.
The brain fog is normal. You are in a state of shock. Keeping busy works for a while. Please post here whenever you want to. It doesn’t matter if it makes no sense or if you don’t know why you are posting. It helps to write it down. Just take one hour at a time for now. Don’t try to do too much.
Everyone here understands.
Sending you the biggest hug.
Xx
I am so sorry for your loss @LuBoRu and can understand your pain. Two weeks is no time at all, please don’t expect very much of yourself just yet. Losing the other half of you is a very different experience to losing someone else in your life. As you say, we now sleep and eat alone and have to learn to be by ourselves although it isn’t what we ever wanted or imagined.
Take each day at a time, and do whatever you feel you need or want to do to. Nobody can have any expectations of you. We get it here. X
I’m so sorry for your loss. It is such a shock. I’m 39 and my partner 49 when he passed away and nothing can prepare you for the loss but keep talking to people. I joined the forum for support, to realise I was not lonely and others are feeling the same. It has helped me just to get some perspective on the reality. Much love and hugs to you
So sorry for your loss. I lost my wife 5 weeks ago we were both 44 and just getting to that point in life where we planning to do all the things we had hoped as our children were off at uni. I totally get the feeling of a lonely house and eating alone the morning and evening are the worst for me as during the day we would both be at work. Like you I don’t make friends easily due to being autistic and my dislike of social situations. The enormity of time hit me the other day thinking I have 46 years of this if the age my grandparents passed away is anything to go by and what is the point and how can I do this and it left me on the floor sobbing. My wife joked in her last week’s that if she knew all she had to do to make me cry was this she would have done it sooner as it was one of her pet hates that I didn’t cry not even our wedding day. I don’t seem to able to stop now she broke the damn which is very annoying. I think you have to try and be kind to yourself do what you can I have days when I don’t stop and currently on those days doing all the jobs I didn’t get round to or put off in some crazy idea that if I do them all maybe it didn’t happen and others where I barely move and just do the basics which I am told is normal for this.Sharing does help which surprised me.I fully get that grief for your partner isn’t the same as family or friends my children miss mum but it is different to my grief and what I lost no less valid
I am so so sorry for your loss, that is so heartbreaking. I am 22 and my boyfriend took his life three weeks ago so I completely understand how much grief you are in. The complete shock and suddenness of it all is so much to feel at once, this forum has helped me feel a bit more listened to and I hope it can provide you the same. Sending you so much love and support <3