Hi, the site used to be much nicer and easier to navigate - however they decided to change it and the result is what we have now - not very user friendly!!!
Not every change is positive
Sadie
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I agree. I am new to it, and I am finding it difficult too.
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Thank you for saying that because I thought it was just me , I’m unsure if I’m commenting / writing in the correct “topic” box 
I find there are too many topics . I’m just flipping sad . It’s that simple 
I agree with you. Same topic, just many variations . Hope tomorrow’s better for you x
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Simple and to the point
It is all very sad! I also feel very sad and because Jack died nearly 2 years ago most people find that my sadness should have diminished!! Well my shock had diminished but my sadness is greater because his absence is so final
Sadie x
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How can it have diminished? When you lose the love of your life your whole world just disappears. Have just been thinking this morning as I made my cup of tea, which Malcolm always did, that I think I’ve kind of got used to the idea that he’s not here. A sort of strange routine seems to have set in but that just means acceptance of the situation, not that anything has been “got over” We’ll never ever stop grieving for them and that’s not what people want to hear. Thank heavens we can say it on here. Sending lovex
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Totally agree it is quite hard to navigate and find your previous conversation string. Definitely not very user friendly and definitely much more difficult on a phone. However it is the best there is. There really isn’t a lot of help out there particularly during this COVID situation for bereaved people. Either way am thinking of you and your situation.
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I know I have been here a wee while now and sometimes I have found when I come on and comment on someones post, they wont know which I post I commented on unless I reference it and that takes up to much room. I also accidentally sent my comments as a reply to the wrong person. I was replying to one person and I realised after it said to someone else I did this twice before realising how I had done it. It was a nuisance and then when I went back to fix it I couldn’t find it. Still this site is better than nothing. Take care everyone.
Some people do think that you should be over it within a certain time frame. But these people have never understood grief the way we have. Grief comes in waves. You may not even feel it that bad at the time it happens (relatively speaking) and you can feel guilty for that. But it can hit you even years later and be absolutely crushing. It maybe something occurs in our life and it takes us right back to that moment as if the life inbetween never happened and again grief can become very raw. Grief hits everyone differently just as everyone is an individual so their grief is individual to them and their circumstance. So you have every right to feel the way you feel. I hope you do have some supportive people in your life that understands that and if you don’t then you always have the people on here and you can just say it like it is and no one will judge you. They will give their own experience and hope it somehow helps you a little and thats all we can do on here but somehow it makes a difference for us because it means we are not completely alone after all. Take care., Thinking of you.
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I just can’t grasp it . Sorry I’m thick .
Don’t blame yourself. You are not thick, I was once a Mensa member and I don’t get it either!! The navigation is rubbish and it’s impossible to find someone or something you want to get back to. I don’t know what the old version was like as I have only been on here a little while. Can’t understand why the people who designed it can’t see that it is very frustrating to use.
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Glad to hear all this, I thought it was just me getting confused and not being able to find what I was looking for! Love to all, at least we all understand each other x
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Do you know Ann I also don’t understand why you hey changed the website
Even the writing looks a bit faded
You, it probably they felt it looked really nice but they forgot to consider: is it better than what we have? Is it user friendly? And the answer for both is no!!
So you are ok Paul!
Sadie
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Will the powers that be read our comments?? Probably not - they won’t be able to find them!
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Lol you are so not thick. I think you need degree in computer science to understand it. Its very hard to follow at times and sometimes people reply to you and you miss that they replied till days later. Other times you accidentally reply to messages to wrong people which can cause misunderstandings. Still as I say it is better than nothing and there isn’t much in the way of support for us other than this. But you are definitely not thick. Everyone has there own skillset. Ann R nailed on the head by saying its very frustrating. And she makes a good point about finding things and getting back to stuff and msgs I too find that very hard.
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Just don’t want to appear rude when like you say it could be days before messages are responded to simply because I’ve joined another topic without realising !!
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That is so true. 
I wish this site was more like the conversation part of youtube where the main conversation continues on and the branches are listed separately under the person where that branch started. It makes more sense in the long term and it is much easier to follow. Hope someone in admin see this. Maybe we should start a post/petition on this in the hope that they fix it. But other than that the site is very good and makes a difference for so many people. Just need it to be a bit less confusing.
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When I reply to anyone I write the heading down, so that if I don’t come on here for a couple of days I know what conversations I have replied to. I was fed up of searching.
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