1st Xmas without mum

[Stacey75]

It’s my 1st Xmas without my mum, she passed away on the 27th of October in hospital surrounded by myself and my siblings, and I can’t stop crying, every time I think I’m turning a corner, something else happens, I’ll see someone who looks like her, smell her perfume, or something will happen that you just need your mum for, it’s the 3rd Xmas without ma dad as he passed away 2 and a half years ago, it’s not been easy but I had my mum to help, now she’s gone too and I can’t breath, my heart has been crushed into a million pieces and I feel like it’s never going to get better, people must be getting fed up with me by now but they have no idea how I feel or what I’m going through

[Seaneen]

I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum, @Stacey75. You are not alone. I just wanted to share this thread which was started by @goblinqueen666 who is also facing their first Christmas without their mum. Maybe you can support each other? Their thread is here:

Christmas without your mum for the first time

I lost my mum on 1st December all her presents were bought and upon looking through her things she’d done the same I don’t know how I’m going to get through it , I’m fine during the daytime keeping busy and it hits me like a truck at night My partners parents retired to Portugal and he’s told them not to come anywhere near this year Every year since I got with my partner she’d always take a photo of the two of us by the tree. She always did our lights and left us to do the rest it was a kin…

You might also want to read our coping with grief at Christmas support page. You may find it helpful or comforting to read.

Please keep reaching out and take good care,

Seaneen

[HayleySheree]

Hi ladies
My heart breaks for you!
I lost my dear mum 4 months ago today on the 9th August. I’m struggling and am absolutely dreading Christmas
I don’t even want to bother celebrating but need to for the kids! It’s so so hard.
Such a big hole in my life now xx

[berit]

no pressure. forget it is the holiday. in my grief, I did only what I felt I wanted to do. externals I ignored. this was MY time. mourning is the most personal act and all else shall take a backseat.

[Shazlena]

Hi,
I’ve just signed up to this group and it is also my first Christmas without my mum. The last time we spoke was Christmas Day night. She was in hospital and very perky, laughing and joking with myself and my teenage daughters. Because she had a viral infection and COPD I hadn’t been to see her as I was getting over a nasty virus myself.

Four hours later she was gone. 00:36am Boxing Day morning…they think she’s suffered a heart attack

I’m trying really hard to be as. ’normal’ as possible as my mum would want me to give my daughters the best time that I can, not worry about her not being present. She’s in our hearts and memories, so I’m trying to keep my spirits up believing that she is near

[Shazlena]

I feel your pain x