6 months today

Losing a partner
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It was a Sunday, 6 months ago, by date, that my husband died suddenly and unexpectedly. He was sitting next to me and had not been ill or in pain.

It is a very bad day.

I am not well physically, stomach problems due to grief.

I am definitely not well mentally.

Today I am being assessed for grief counselling.

The date did not register in my mind when the appointment was set up.

Please think of me today and, if you do, pray for me today.

I am way down on the rollercoaster.

I know you understand.

Rose xx

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Morning Rose,
So sorry to learn of you being so low
Six months is a poignant marker on this journey ( mine is nearly 8 months now but I know how that day feels).
You are always so supportive of others on here and so I hope that by speaking with a counsellor today, you may get some help.
Thinking of you and wishing you well in all respects.
Xxx

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Dear Rose, hoping that counselling will be of help to you. We will all be thinking of you today. Sending love xx

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Huge hugs and strength for you Rose. I’m just passed the 6 and a half month mark and I feel like I’ve gone backwards. Weirdly, people assume your doing okay. I hate my life. I just want my husband back, and for my life to be what it was and my heart to not be so broken :broken_heart: thinking of you xx

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Dear @Elite and @Ginger68

thank you.

I really appreciate you contacting me. It means so very much to me.

I feel like the world has stopped for me and I am a sad, disconnected spectator.

Love and hugs,

Rose xx

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This is so hard and the grief is unrelenting.
People say “you look well” and that poem about I’m not waving I’m drowning always springs to mind.
Thinking of all our friends on here and special thoughts of Rose today.
Xxx

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Aww, Rose. Really feeling for you. I hope rage counselling goes well.
Keep your chin up my love. We are all batting for you.
Sending hugs and strength. Xx

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Thank you so very much.

That means so much xx

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Thank you so much…

I totally understand what you have written.

It does feel like going backwards.

Rose xx

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Sending you love, hope the counselling goes as well as it can. I am only 6 weeks into this awful journey. I understand what you are saying about not feeling well. I will think of you today x

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Thank you so much.
That is very kind.
Sorry for your loss.

Rose xx

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Hello all

It is approaching 9 months since I lost my lovely husband Jimmy.

I too feel like I am going backwards. The physical pain is consuming me today. I just want him back so much.

I am totally lost!

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Hi JJ88,
I am approaching 8 months since losing my partner and it is so hard. Xx

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Thinking of you, Rose, and sending hugs. Of course we understand. Hope you get some sleep tonight, and that tomorrow will be a little better. xx

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Rage counselling? So sorry, it was meant to say Grief counselling!

Sausage fingers, or predictive text.
Hope it went well, and that there was no rage involved.
Xx

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Although rage counselling may be of benefit at times too, to release those suppressed feelings of anger of the loss of our beloved husbands/wives, and the loss of the futures we had planned :cry::cry::cry:

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Rose
Hope today went ok for you. My husband too was sitting next to me and died suddenly of a cardiac arrest. No signs, no warnings, fit & healthy, didn’t smoke or drink and was slim and fit. It is a shock to the system and having no time to say goodbye adds to the trauma. All you can do is take it one step and at a time and be kind to yourself. Sending a big hug Lyn x

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Hi Rose
It’s a big date isn’t it - I’ll be 6 months next week and I wonder how I’ve managed to keep going for all that time.
You’ve done great to still be standing at 6 months.
I feel the longer time goes on the more reality sets in, and it such an huge adjustment we have to make without our loved ones.
It can feel so overwhelming and all consuming.
Just take it one day at a time. Like at the beginning.
Counselling will hopefully make things a bit easier for you and be a positive support.
Keep posting and reaching out here. Your kindness to others shines through and so let us all support you when times are hard.
You’re not alone - we are all in this together, sadly.
Hope you get some rest tonight and that your meeting went ok today

Sending a big hug and lots of love your way
:hugs: xxx

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Sorry to hear this rose.this group is really helpful.

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I lost my husband January this year,so i understand how you are feeling right now.Thinking of you Rose x

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