Glad were helpful to you. They have been my rock at times and there were days i felt like giving up but the promise I made to my gorgeous beautiful late wife sue to carry on fighting for life and being here helped me
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Hi Rose,
Sorry for your loss and unexpected I just feel it for you and your family.
It is 4 months today that my husband passed and this month i start a bereavement group of 12 of us. I preferred that rather than one on one.
At least here we can express our loss as we all understand even though our grief experiences differ.
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Dear Rose, I will pray for you today. Be strong and take one step at a time. Life feels so cruel but we need to keep going and hopefully there will be a light at the end of this very dark tunnel. Take care, big hugs x
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Thank you for contacting me.
That is so kind and thoughtful xx
Big hugs rosegarden.i can sympathise with you on this. It will be 2 years in February next year when I lost my gorgeous beautiful late wife sue to cancer.i made sue a promise to carry on fighting for life.the days i feel down i just remember the good times we had together.xx
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Thinking of you rose and hope you are doing abit better today 
sending hugs 
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I havenāt been on here for a little while, not because things have changed but because being back at work has made my life very very busy.
I was so sorry to read how miserable youāve been feeling Rose.
I have just passed the 23 week mark. Itās been a couple of really awful weeks for me too. I feel like Iāve got back. Iāve been into tears again a lot more of the time and reliving the morning in hospital he died. Still feel so guilty.
And Iāve been having a bloody awful time with the pension company, you think as a wife things would be sorted but theyāre not. Company seem to have no feelings at all for the people that are dealing with.
So Iām just sending love and hugs Rose cause I know exactly where you are at. I hope the counselling helps. Iāve been having it since He was in a coma in March, and then even after he had recovered, and then later from the week after he passed till now.
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So very sorry.
So kind of you to contact me.
Sending a big hug xx
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6 months today since my wife passed away , feels like forever and also yesterday at the same time .
I canāt say it gets any easier , in fact in many ways itās harder , in my head I know sheās not coming back but that physical longing to see & hold her again is only getting stronger , day to day life has gone on , getting through each day ( sometimes hour by hour still ) has somehow added up to 6 months going by .
I have no idea how I have made it this far , or how much further I can make it without her , but I have to keep going for the kids and hope that one day I will not feel so emotionally exhausted all the time , maybe even find some inner peace without her .
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Itās so hard isnāt it 
7 months for me today. The heart wants what it wants and the brain is all over the place. The pain is unreal. How are we supposed to accept that this is it. You build a life, work hard and itās just gone in a blink. Sending love and strength to you. The only reason Iām still here is for our kids, I donāt know how weāve got here today Dino, but we have, keep going, youāve got this. Your kids need you now more than ever.
Jen x
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Thinking of you.
I totally understand
Rose x
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It is very hard.
Thinking of you
Rose x
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Hi Friends,
It was 8 months for me, a couple of days ago and I greatly resonate with all that has been said.
I have just had my. central heating system replaced and so a lot of upheaval/rejigging stuff but very pleased
We didnāt live together but less than 10mins walk away and very often at each others homes. I have just had a massive sobbing turn as feel so alone at the mo, knowing he would have been around and bern excited for me, checked the workmanship/helped moving furniture etc etc. I so miss his enthusiastic imput.
I JUST MISS HIM SO MUCH.
This is so tough everyone isnāt it,
Sending love to all. Xx
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Sending a big hug xx
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It is extremely tough. Us who are left behind donāt half suffer. Never experienced anything like this pain in my life, I feel completely disorientated. We donāt know who we are, whatās going to become of us, the bills keep coming, life keeps on moving, the company where my husband was killed are still open making money. I hate the world i must be honest. 7 months today and Iām still stuck on 29th February. I still canāt accept heās gone and itās driving me crazy.
Love and strength xx
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Never knew anything could hurt so much , how your whole world can be ripped apart in an instant .
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So very sorry.
Sending a big hug xx
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Totally agree x
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Our kids will keep us going. We would never want to intentionally inflict this pain on them for a second time would we!
I agree re the pain, itās horrendous and grief is so confusing.
Sending hugs xx
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6 months today for me as well.
I went for a wee trip to St Andrews with my daughter- somewhere we often went for a walk on the beach and an Genettas ice cream.
It was good to be busy and there was a great buzz to the town as it is freshers week, so there were lots of new students as well as tourists around.
But all I could see were happy couples and happy students and my family have lost all of that.
Sitting now at home trying to hold it together for my kids but from Monday it will be just me and my youngest as the others return to their uni courses.
Not sure what I will do with my time during the day. Maybe get a chance to properly grieve in some peace without having to push it all down all the time.
Life is just so sad now all the time. How to move forward is still a mystery to me and I donāt know how I will ever manage the pain and desolation that I feel without him.
As you say, the kids need me now more than ever so they are my reason to keep getting up each and every day.
Sending huge hugs and lots of love and strength to you all. Xx
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