I know what you mean Rose, I tried to find one on my area, there is nothing. Such a shame. X
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You are absolutely right about needing an informal but kind and understanding group. I think I was lucky (seems very unusual at the moment!) that I found one. It seems a long hard search to find any help or support out there, especially of the in person meeting type. Cruse is also struggling to meet the needs of bereaved people. They have collapsed where I live and donāt seem to operate or respond at all. So many of the types of things that might give us a bit of company or support just arenāt there anymore. Good job weāve at least got this place. Iām sending you all the very best x
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Just thought of something else - Compassionate Friends offer a grief companioning thing. Iāve been waiting about a month and they got back to me today to finalise what happens. You get given somebody who, as far as possible, has had something similiar happen to them. All volunteers but experienced cos itās happened to them. I donāt have all the details but I think you chat for an hour a week on the phone. Iām gonna give it a try. They are very kind people on Compassionate Friends. X
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Hello All,
I have been looking for a support group because I feel a need to discuss things with other people who affected by bereavement,either recently and/or are still badly affected by losses much less recently.I canāt find one nearer enough for me to attend.I think Age concern is involved somewhere along the line,so perhaps a good idea to approach them.
I think the Salvation Army also have group meetings by those affected.
I do know that some Hospices have support groups too for anyone who is grieving and it isnāt limited to mourners who have lost someone to cancer or another terminal illness.I
Some church communities offer them too.So I hope this info.helps because I am determined to find one,then I think I would have the best of both worldsā¦the support from this fabulous community and a group to attend.
Good luck all.x
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Thank you @Pushkin28, I never thought of the Salvation Army. I know my local churches havenāt, they have groups for the over 60s, mums and toddlers, menās groups but nothing for the breaved. You have given me the idea I might suggest it to our local council of churches .
As you say it would lovely to have a physical group to go to and all of you on here. X
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Oddly perhaps, the Undertakers that organised Tās funeral has a group for bereaved people - so other firms might, too. Might be worth a look locally, @Pushkin28 - another lead perhaps. I have a ridiculously busy day today - 4 very long and difficult work calls 
and a haircut. Bad planning. Need more coffee! On we go x
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Thank you I will try them, hope you get through your busy day. At least you can relax during haircut, unless they start endless chatter to you. X
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Hi all, also this morning just emailed my local town council, to see if they come back with any local groups. X
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Hi Pushkin28 I know hospices run Bereavement Cafes so perhaps contact your local hospice. You are right there seems to be lots of groups but nothing for the bereaved. I use Nextdoor.co.uk which is a good way of staying in contact with your area. Take care xx
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Hi Debbie,I hope we both find a support group I think it would be very helpful especially as we have the forum here too.x
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Thank You very much for the suggestion Mandy,it just great to have people on here that can advise and help to get practical help.x
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Hi Mandy,
Thank you so much for the link to nextdoor.co.yoU have just joined up it looks so interesting.I have never heard of before and from what Iāve seen so far it seems an excellent opportunity to get to know people,events and general support.
Iām so grateful to you because I live in such a small place with only a small school,one shop a church,village hall and a pub.
Iām close friends with my neighbour which is a lovely friendship to have because I have developed dreadful anxiety and she is doing her best to help me.
She has been an absolute gemā¦you too Mandy I really believe next door will be a massive help to me.xx
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It is quite interesting although you do get some random comments. Hope it helps xxx
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Thanks Mandy,it is interesting but I havenāt made any comments yet.Iāll watch what goes on before I take the plunge.x
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Hi all
After all this time Iāve finally found a breavement group. At Avril Phillips funeral Directors in Kettering. Came across it by accident on Facebook. Might of interest for any one who lives in Northamptonshire. Open to anyone and you donāt need to have used them.
Debbie X
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That will be good sadly I have not found any in my area hope it helps Debbie
Take care xx
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Thank you Rose, I hope you eventually find one in your area too. X X
So true Rose I hate all those platitudes people use. I donāt even know how to be kind to myself! Just do what Tony does and keep on keeping on doing stuff and before you know it youāve moved on a wee bit. Although I do believe in making new memories, it just gives you something different to think about when you go to bed at night. I am finding that I donāt really like going home on my own anymore but I have to. Hate opening the front door and going into an empty house. Having lost my mum and sister recently there is such a huge hole left in my life that I donāt know how to live now. I donāt have my daughter to focus on, Im pleased she has her own life now, but you feel like a fish out of water. Anyway everyone take care and glad you got over COVID lady11.
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Thankyou š«
I am so sorry for your loss, I am very recently bereaved, my cats keep me focused, just as your dogs will for you x Be strong for them. They need us too
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