I also hate weekend my husband past away at 2am on a Saturday morning I’m alone my own family live 2hrs drive away but my husband brother and family are 7 miles away but don’t come unless anything needs doing. I’m not copying still with the loss of my lifelong husband, he passed away last November he was my rock soulmate and took care of all, now he’s gone I have everything to take care of and I’m so stressed very down crying all the time. Wish he’d taken me with him
So sorry for your loss .stick on here we are here to help you
We are going through this horrible road .i am 6 moths after losing. My wife this is a good place to come if you need a chat .or anything. Xxxx
Thank you for reply I just sit here all day, don’t see anyone well not often. I have really good neighbours who do keep an eye on me and will do anything for me which I’m so grateful for. But it does make up for the loss of the man I’ve loved for 54yrs
Yes i lost my wife 6 months ago still very hard to come to terms with it i just miss her 38 years we were married xx
I do not see anyone for weeks. I love coming on here.chat and learn things xxxx
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It’s sad a lot of friends say they will keep
In touch but you don’t hear from them again xx
Mornings u ok xxx
Feeling a bit better than yesterday, but still very down.
I am sorry you feel like .i know who u feel .
My husbands family who we use 2 see alot of stopped talking 2 me, after his funeral,
i couldn’t understand it.
But his children hav been great.
The old saying nowt queerer than folk.
But i let em get on with it,
no lose 2 me now.
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i know that feeling my husbands family fell out even before funeral so they didnt come it was when you was only aloud 30 people because of covid but they wanted me to put them before is own children so i said they could come but they would after be outside but they went mental
Im new to this forum. I lost my fiance of 23 years suddenly in January this year. He was an amazing guy with a huge heart of gold and helped anyone who asked. He was a tradesman and worked extremely hard all his life.
I found him at home the day he passed away when I came home from work. He had a heart problem he never knew about which we were told caused his death.
The devastation we have felt since his loss has been unbearable. 7 weeks before he died our daughter had her first baby and he was so excited to be a Grandad. Telling the kids thier Dad had passed is the hardest thing Ive ever done. Since his death Ive given up working because I couldnt continue in the role I had looking after people with drug and alcohol issues. Something changed in me that wouldnt allow me to go back.
We have experienced so many firsts, his birthday, our anniversary, mothers day and fathers day our sons birthday was just 2 weeks after he passed. All of them were just incredibly hard for the whole family.
Ive become a full time carer for both my parents. My Dad was rushed to hospital 4 days before my fiance died. He had sepsis and nearly died himself, 3 days after my fiances funeral, my Dads younger sister passed away from terminal cancer.
Im finding evenings and weekends the hardest. These were the times we were always together, he wasnt just my fiance he was ny best friend. I can sort of function when im with people but as soon as Im alone I go to pieces. I havent slept for more than 3 hours a night since he died because i wake up panicked from nightmares every night. Some about my partner but others are about my kids. I have been signed up for counselling at our local hospice so Im hoping to get some help with coping. I have a couple of friends who have been so supportive but most have stepped back and avoid me if they can. There are no groups near me to talk to other people going through similar losses so thats why I joined.
Good afternoon everyone how are we all doing
Hi diggerdave its hard these days. I lost my husband in 2022. Didnt even make our 5th anniversary 
its been 3 years now and im syill angry he has left me. We had some good times together but i wanted years of it. I found a little solice in my garden and bee keeping. Keeps me occupied. Thats all i can say. Find a hobby. Keep busy and dont dwel on things as time goes so quickly. I lost 3 years dont know where they went but getting there slowly.
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So sorryfor your loss
Sorry for your loss. I was the same working nights and still only having 3 to 3 and a half hours sleep. Couldnt go upstairs slept on settee. Sorting out house now 3 years on. Still in a mess but lost 3 years dont know where they went. But slowly rebuilding myself up .
I have not had a good nites sleep in 11 months since i lost my wife
I know that feeling getting 5 hours now so does slowly get better. Has taken 3 years to get to this point though. Only takes time. But like i said 3 years so far. Maybe in a few more years i will sleep properly.
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Dearest Toppy
There is no right way to get through the ‘firsts’ of everything. What you did sounds amazing… I faced the same thing in July.
Take care of yourself and just keep talking to him xx Hugs and love