Mentioning in a thread about using faith if you have one to get through. I did and sometimes but it isnt a magic wand.
Some well meaning others think so.
I watched a two part episode of Silent Witness on tv showing someone who died and found year later in bed.
Yes showed graphics but I was intrigued. When you are left you wonder about such things.
Especially when services not joined up e g. why is it some get support and others missed. Hear life style choices branded about but I think of autistic people and how does that work if they are isolated and so tragic.
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Oh.i cant watch silent witness ā¦ youre very brave 
you will have friends or neighbours wont you. Try not to let ot worry you. Night ā¦ im having a funny sleep tonight xx
I have had my sleep. I fall asleep and wake up at night. If I try to sleep when not tired worse.
Not much can do.
Totally agree! Iām not saying itās easy but it is possible!
I have a great family and friends around ! Just yesterday I picked my grandson (7) up from school and had pizza with him and my daughter! Just a normal day helping out with the grandchildren and a fun thing to do!
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Yes, you are right. Faith isānt a majic wand and some people find it helps. I watch Silent Witness and saw the 2 part you mentioned. It took me back to the job I did where I sometimes ha d to go about picking up scattered remains and putting them in plastic bags and crying over them. I have left that all behind now. I wish my family stayed close bye so that I could hug them. Itās not the same on Facetime. I like this community. Take care.
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You have a very positive attitude, youāll be fine!
My wife had a strong faith which I respected totally (unlike me) but would often ask āWhy meāā or āWhat did I do to deserve thisā !
I believe that people are inherently good (until they prove otherwise) but donāt believe in a faith as such - I couldnāt answer her questions except to say that she had led an exemplary selfless life and did not deserve this - itās just a genetic lottery!
We had an absolutely wonderful chaplain in the hospital faith centre- she visited every to hold her hand and say a prayer with her !
She was absolutely wonderful and really helped helped me to get myself together after she passed and my world imploded
Hi. I hope that I didnāt imply that everyone should have a faith. I know that my daughter and he wonderful hubby donāt. Mine doesānt seem to be helping me. But, there are people online here who are.
No - i certainly didnt read / interpret it that that way either, I certainly respect other peoples faiths / beliefs as i spent a lot of my career in the middle east amongst people of islamic faith and found they were some of the warmest and most kind prople i have met and likewise i have some lovely friends and family of Christian faith that i love and respect.
I am sorry if your own faith isnt helping you at this time and hope that you find some comfort and help to guide you through this ā¦ there is life and light on the other side 
Well it is interesting reading these posts. Yes I woke up again as usual.
My faith has had a bashing. Hasnāt gone away. But it is hard to go to church.
My mum said if she didnāt have faith she would have no one else. (When she was widowed alone)
At times it is the only thing that keeps me going. I have doubts yes.
But we all do. Never promised an easy ride.
But does help reading Bible notes and calms me. But praying does help. Doesnt stop my grief.
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Yes , you are right about. The Faith being important and it hasānt alway helped me but again as you so right.y said we were never promised the āeasyā. I only wish that I could stop feelin so useless and get my āget up and go to come backā. As I already said, I like this group anth positive help I get from it.
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So sorry for your loss Peter, Iām 55 and lost my husband 5 months ago.
Life is so cruel, we were so happy. We have no choice but to keep going and live for them . I find this journey incredibly hard and painful. I feel like itās actually getting harder.
One day at a timeā¦
My husband died 10 months ago. I have plucked up courage to go away to Dorset to our old haunts where we used to Scuba dive. I was amazed that for the first time I didnāt cry when thinking of our times here. It helps that Iām here with our dog and staying at my sonās home as my base, so Iām not totally alone. Another first of the many Iāve experienced this year - his birthday, our 49th wedding anniversary, Xmas, new year, my birthday, entertaining my neighbours without him at my side - they all took a toll, but I feel this week I may be turning a corner.
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I hope you do turn a corner. It is 19 months for me. I keep thinking I have turned a corner too.
I went away last year and this year. I am staying overnight on my own tomorrow. Not the first time but just to break up being at home on my own and for a change of scenery.
Today in and out doing endless gardening.
The cat has gone away for a night too. Maybe she feels the same.
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