@Alir, Hello Alison. Thank you, quite a decent day, met a friend for lunch, downside there were so many couples in the cafe, but hardly speaking to each other and looking bored. Richard and I hardly stopped chatting in between eating. As you say, so many triggers to upset us.
How sad for the poor lady you met in the supermarket who had not been given any important advice. I was given the information about the tell once service by the registrar when I registered my husband’s death, she gave me the unique number I needed to complete the appropriate form. It was lovely that you could help the sad lady.
I hope you’ve had a nice day and have some plans for the long weekend.
Love, Rosemary x
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When we were out we tended to end up chatting to everyone around us. Happens down here. In the doctors surgery they have to come and get people as the conversations in the waiting room are so loud nobody hears the tannoy calls.
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@Rome18
That sounds nice Rosemary, I am pleased to hear you had a good day.
I too went out with a friend for lunch, we went by the canal. We took a short boat ride after our luch then sat and had ice creams in the sunshine. It was so nice to be out but all of the time I kept wishing it was my husband with me. On the journey home I felt very sad. I kept thinking , of all the things we won’t do anymore. I haven’t cried today but just feel very down and sad.
I am very grateful to my friend for taking me out but just wish with all my heart the circumstances were different.
I am going to my sisters tomorrow but not sure about Sunday or Monday. All of my friends have families and partners so they will be spending their time together. I don’t like to put on my sisters as the both have their own family and grandchildren.
I hope you have a pleasant weekend.
Love Alison xx
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@Pudding. Yes, we always got chatting wherever we were, nearly missed a ‘plane once, only heard the final call. I am a chatterbox and was sent out of class a couple of times. It’s obviously why I hate living alone and talk to myself. I have just had a chat to Hey Siri.
I hope you have a good night xx
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When I used to work abroad I got a bit of a reputation. I travelled from Frankfurt to London with 2 colleagues. There was a lift to get down to the business lounge. They would load me in the lift with the briefcases and they would walk. By the time I got to the bottom I was talking to all the other people in the lift. I also ended up chatting with someone in a lift coming up from the French metro.
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@Alir, Your day sounds lovely, especially the boat ride and ice cream. Wherever we are and whatever we do, we will always wish our husbands were with us. It’s just so sad.
Enjoy tomorrow at your sister’s and I hope something else turns up for Sunday and Monday.
Love, Rosemary x
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@Pudding. My goodness, Sandra, if we were ever together, the chatting would never stop! xx
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Silly thing is I am actually quite a shy person.
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@Pudding. I am shy underneath, but cover it up with chatting,
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@Rome18 Hi Rosemary I went out to M&S with my faithful friend who comes every Saturday.Without her I would have been lost .She is coming on Thursday and Im going to see some retirement apartments .They are local to me in North London .So the location is good but Although they have a Warden and lounge they don’t have the assisted living package that some McCarthy Stone have.I’ll let you know what they are like.
I hope you have a good weekend.
Love and hugs
Annx
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@19Lefke95
Hi Ann, So pleased you had a trip out today with your friend.
I spent the afternoon with my neighbour chatting over a cuppa. Too wet for a walk.
I do hope you find some suitable apartments to choose from.
Hope the rest of the long weekend is good.
Love, Rosemary x
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@Rome18 Actually it’s just to get a feel for it as from the start I didn’t know where to go so have to narrow it down a bit.It’s because it’s all so new isn’t it what we never dreamed of having to do.
Do you know today I realised how different Zek and I were in some ways .I have always been a bit reserved ,I’m not unfriendly just a bit reserved.Zek was the opposite always friendly to everyone everywhere .
A chap that was in hospital with him (who I didn’t know) the last stay .When he heard he had died he wrote a lovely tribute to him and sent it to me and we included it in the service.He said Zeki spoke to everyone including the cleaners and porters and made them feel special.When he heard Zeki was dead instead of being quiet he started ti talk to everyone which he had never done in his life and said to himself “ That’s it isn’t it Zek?”
The reason I’m recalling this is I find myself suddenly surrounded in new neighbours .3 lots and Zeki would have made friends with them already.Must do it .
Enjoy the rest of the weekend Rosemary.
I am trying to control my tears
Hugs and love
Annxx
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@19Lefke95
Ann, Just take your time and have a good look around, there’s no absolute rush after all. I’m sure you will find the right place, but it may take time. It’s so sad that we find ourselves in this awful position and having to make the important decisions.
My husband and I were quite different in some ways, but I think that’s what makes relationships work so well.
A very gloomy evening here, dark and raining, matches my mood. Thinking about the lovely Saturday evening I could be having but instead here I am, alone, tearful and miserable.
Take care,
Love, Rosemary x
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@Rome18 I so wish we lived nearer to each other I would be very blessed to have a nice friend like you .We are lucky to have met such nice people on here.Never mind if and when we move we will have people to talk to.I listened to what you said to take it slowly I just felt unsettled with all strange neighbours.
I do try to keep positive but it is so upsetting.My friends sister lost her husband to Motor Neurone Disease she said when she reached the one year it was far worse .She told my friend the second year hit home all the things she had lost and it was for ever.We already guessed that didn’t we as we won’t be able to say this time last year our husbands were with us.
I hope you have a pleasant weekend ,it’s difficult to say happy.
Hugs and love
Annxx
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@19Lefke95. How lovely of you, Ann, to say that, I feel the same, it would be so nice if we lived nearer. There are so many nice people on here, it’s a shame we are all scattered around the UK.
I know, and know of, a number of people who have moved to a retirement apartment and absolutely love it. My old neighbour is in one and says she’s never lonely and has made some lovely friends.
I am sure your new neighbours will be fine, but I can understand you being rather unsettled, especially now being on your own.
Yes, I’ve heard it doesn’t get any better after the first year for the reasons you said. One of my neighbours lost her husband nearly three years ago and is still suffering quite badly. It’s nearly two years for a friend and she is not very good. All we can do is manage each day at a time,
It got really dark early this evening, not looking forward to dark nights with curtains drawn early.
Just going to bed, another lonely night.
Take care.
Love, Rosemary x
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@Rome18 Very dark and chilly here feels like late Oct.
I’m off to bed too
Hugs and love
Annxx
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