This may sound daft, and I am an anxious person by nature, however, since losing my parents within months of each other last year, I have become very scared of anything happening to my family.
Our children are in their 30’s but I worry about accidents, poor health etc. it’s ten times worse since my dad died in summer 2024 and mum in November.
Anyone else feel extra anxious during grief?
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It doesn’t sound daft at all. I think it’s common for many people to feel this way after a bereavement x
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Yes I definitely resonate, I lost my mum coming up to 2 years ago and ever since then I’ve been a nervous wreck and find myself thinking of death constantly!
If i don’t hear from anyone I worry so much that something has happened and I have developed intense health anxiety.
Before it was in the back of my mind but losing my Mum triggered terrible anxiety over losing more loved ones x
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Hi
I am exactly the same its horrible isn’t it over thinking if my husband is late home or my daughters driving etc, even knowing my mum was poorly and frail it’s a rollercoaster of emotions thinking xxx
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I was diagnosed with Generalised Anxiety Disorder a few years back, and have been living with it since, but since I lost my mother last year it seems to have been reawakened with vengeance. I know it is the grief which is making it worse. You aren’t alone in your anxiety. I think it is another part of the grief process. Take care of yourself. 
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Thank you for replies.
It really does help knowing I’m not alone, but sad to know others suffer.
I over think everything just now x
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Oh, I am so overthinking everything at the moment. Even silly little things. Then I am letting other people, who I shouldn’t let bother me, bother me. I am my worse enemy at the best of times. I think because mum was such a support for my mental health I’m missing that as well as missing her. I’m just exhausted with life at the moment. I keep going for my father, who is also in deep grief. But I wish I could just escape the world for a while.
Take care lovely, as best you can.
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Oh I do feel for you MowgliGirl182
My mum died 4 months after my Dad, she faded away and was heartbroken, on top of her own health issues . It must be so hard seeing your Dad suffer his grief.
The anxiety is adding to the exhaustion. I’d love some stress free time, but there is none forthcoming at the moment .
Take care of yourself xx
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Yes! I am generally anxious too, though it has taken me years to realise that I am much more anxious than people usually are. Since losing mum I’ve imagined lots of horrible scenarios, or perhaps that is just typical me! It is wearing me down though.
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Yes that is it. Very hard.
I came home from four days away yesterday and all alone since my husband died.
Talk about over the top anxiety. Case still unpacked properly. Snail’s pace. Trying to go through the motions. Tired and 80.
Just cooking homemade soup. To do list no where near sorted.
After all meals provided now back to old routine.
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Not daft. I have been very very anxious about my mum’s health in the 13 months we’ve been without my dad. She is anxious about health care, so I’ve had to step back, which is incredibly difficult. I would say that I dislike interacting with healthcare services now, whereas before I was indifferent.
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I am now anxious because my autistic adult son received a refusal for his PIP renewal that went to tribunal four years ago and he got it.
He shot himself in the foot by not telling me and filling it in with no care and half missing nit keeping a copy not getting supporting evidence and answer questions really sillily because he can’t process things quickly enough. Now he is worried so am I.
I think with cause but it is very hard for me to get my head around it being older.
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Am in a similar position with my son. These things are the perfect examples of autism in themselves though! I also think there’s a family link to anxiety and autism, they very often go together.
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It certainly wares you down. I’m exhausted and can’t see a way forward.
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It must be so hard without your husband.
I send you support.
This past season my Mum, died very suddenly, lost her closest friend under a week later, nearly lost my surving sibling and my sister in law died. I cant leave the house for anxiety. I am the world’s worst double checker at best. But I even unplug the landline now. I go back and check a dozen times if i have to go out. Anxiety makes anxiety worse. It ia just another thing to cope with. I feel for you. X
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Annie I’ve had the same feelings and thoughts since my mum died. I did think of death every day. I was scared about being alone without her. I worried about all members of my family. I became so aware of my age and anxious about how much time I had left. Losing her changed all perceptions of longevity. But now I do t feel so anxious in that way. It is definitely calming down. I think the utter shock of loss can make the brain go haywire. Things will never be as they were but I am gradually finding a way to live with mum not here and even looking forward to spring, a time when we shared all our gardening activities and outings. It takes time but we gradually change our perceptions. I do hope it comes to you soon.
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Thank you Daydreamer1, your post has given me some hope .
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I totally understand Barnacle. Anxiety does make anxiety worse, the mental chatter is never ending . I can’t see a way ahead without the relentless what ifs and buts that go round my head .
I send you support.
I totally understand when you say that anxiety makes anxiety worse. The mental chatter is never ending and the what ifs and the buts are relentless.
I send you my support.