Hi this is my first post I lost my husband on October 2nd and am really struggling with anxiety every morning it is so hard every day. We have been together since I was 16 so 34 years 32 of which we were married. Does anyone else have this? It seems to subside each evening around 5pm only to start again the next day it’s exhausting.
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Angela71
I know how you feel my husband died on 12th August I too am struggling first I thought he would walk though door then I felt angry he had left me with so much to sort out these feelings haven’t really gone but now I feel lost and alone and it’s unbearable I lie awake just thinking of everything that we will not be able to do anymore and I cry all the time the other day I just burst into tears waiting at the traffic lights. Mornings are the worse for me the house is so silent and empty. I just muddle though the day but now with Xmas here I feel I’m right back to square one with anxiety and worry about the future . Take care and keep reading these posts you are not alone.
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Angela,sorry for your lost,my husband passed away nearly 12 weeks ago,feel my heart went with him,married for 51yrs
I agree with you it is exhausting,I cry constantly throughout the day,grief is the most painful thing,I to hate mornings,dread the start of another sad day,don’t sleep well but have to drag myself out of bed
Don’t know the answer to this heartbreak,feel sorry for all of us going it
Take care
Christine x
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It’s so hard. thankyou for the response hopefully it will get easier to manage with time.
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Thankyou 
I am absolutely dreading Christmas I keep trying to block it out.
I have bad anxiety too and have got betablockers from my gp. They don’t stop it but do make it a bit less when it gets really bad. Mornings are worse, I get it in the night and insomnia too, but evening it’s a bit lower when i feel like the day is thankfully over. It’s exhausting and scary. I was told it’s shock and grief. Take care, there are lots of lovely people on here in the same nightmare. Clare x
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It’s so sad to hear that other people are having to experience this but also comforting to know we are not alone . Take care
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Hi Angela71
Yes my anxiety got really bad, I was to scared to do anything & worrying all the time about the smallest things. I contacted my doctor in the end because I just couldn’t function at all & he gave me beta blockers. They have helped me a lot I am able to do the things I need to do without having panic attacks, I no longer feel fearful all the time & the constant sick feeling in my stomach has gone. I am struggling at the minute with Christmas to get through like everybody else on here but I’m sure without this medication I would be a damn site worse than I am.
Hiya Angela lost may husband 13month ago the pain never goes away you just cope with it I was marrried 44 year my everything take care annie x
Hi Angela. What dose of beta blocker do you take. I’m presuming it’s propranolol. I too wake up with really bad stomach anxiety. It never goes away unless I am walking the dog. As soon as I sit it’s back. I feel better knowing that it’s not only me that is suffering Take care x
Hi Nel
I am on Propranolol, when I first went on them at the beginning of December I was taking 2, 3 times a day. I am now down to 1 morning & night & it is keeping the horrible feeling in my stomach away & I am quite calm.
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I’m on them to and they calm me down lv annie x
Hi Angela.
It’s hard isn’t it. My husband died on October 9th. I find I’m ok during the day when I have lots to do or can go out for a walk but my anxiety levels rise in the evening and my mind goes into overdrive. I haven’t sought help yet, am hoping it will ease.
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Hi
Lost my husband in sept and I know how you feel with anxiety. I have been feeling anxious when I go places even to the shops. It’s not overwhelming so I can cope but it’s there the butterflies in my stomach. What I do feel overwhelmed about at times is just the thought of being alone in life. Even with friends and family it’s hard dealing with everything on your own. My anxiety is easing a little bit hope yours does too xx
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Angela, it’s like falling off a mountain every morning, you wake, if Yr lucky to get any sleep, it’s all normal, I’m finding, that I’m crying at the drop of a hat, for no reason, or is it, Yr not going mad and neither am I, its grief, I will pray for us all on this group:pray:
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Penny it is grieve it’s 13month since my lovely john died it’s so hard and I cry at anything you take care of yourself lv annie x x
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Hi Angela, I’m so sorry for your loss.
I lost my wife Melissa on the 18th of Dec, she had been battling cancer for two years and it had taken her right leg from her and damaged her left so Melissa was in a wheelchair for much of last year with me providing an increasing amount of care myself, it eventually attacked her lungs and that sadly is what took her from us.
I’m finding that I have severe anxiety and feelings of panic both in the morning and at points during the day when I would normally be supporting Melissa or at the Hospital with her. I seem to have “deferred” a lot of the pain caused by watching someone you love go through traumatic operations and being unwell for long periods. now we have held the funeral it is bubbling up as these feelings of anxiety and that I should not be doing whatever it is I’m doing at that moment but that I should be somewhere else looking after her.
There is such a massive hole in my days and the anxiety makes it very hard to focus on doing anything other than simple short tasks?
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Hiya Steve it’s awful I looked after my husband of 44years for 10month and I just feel lost I had to go to doctor gave me beta blockers and they have helped but nothing takes all the pain away you take care of yourself lv annie x
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So sorry for your loss it is so hard to carry on without someone especially someone who you have obviously devoted a lot of time and love to but hopefully we will get stronger and better to deal with it as time goes on or at least that is what I am hoping.
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Me too Angela lv annie x
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