Morning Griff and Shirley thankyou for welcoming me into your group. I will try some of your suggetions Griff but as you say the absence of our partner is the hardest. I say in my head how can you be here one minute and gone the next?: Was our life together real? I know it was because we have two beautiful children and one grandchild. You say allow yourself tears … well I’m in floods of tears now. Well I’ll dry my eyes and carry on with some jobs and see what I can get done today. Well Shirley I hope you have a good journey back, I know the empty house feeling only too well. Big hug.x
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Hello and welcome. My cousin is going to meet me off the train so someone will come in with me. Griff’s suggestions are good ones and they’ve worked for me too. I try to have a plan to look forward to and volunteering at a local musuem makes the weekends more bearable. I’ve met up with another widow there and it feels like we have a common bond and a similar outlook on life. Tai Chi is my next adventure and hopefully I’ll meet some like minded people there. Take time to rest and reflect it really is early days for you so don’t expect too much of yourself. Enjoy your grandchild they are so life affirming and you get a sense of closeness to their grandad from them to. Have a good day and start planning something just for you xx
Tai Chi not tye dye lol. I’m doing pilates n yoga in my own home though but going to start early morning swimming when my local pool opens. X
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It could end up with me being tied up in knots and inventing a new yoga position lol
@Shirleymc I like the point about grief is the price for loving. Logically, I know that should help as I know I should be lucky for being married to the most beautiful girl in the world for over 40 years, but at the moment I just can’t get my head round it. Maybe one day.
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Travelling home this morning been awake off and on since 5am feeling anxious and emotional . Had a lovely few days with my son and family going back to an empty house is not a good thought this morning but this is the new normal for us now. My cousin said she’d meet me off the train so at least I won’t be on my own going into the house and my other cousin will ring me this evening. Will get the kettle on open the blinds and windows and put the washing machine on and get on with what’s left of the day.
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Hope you have a good journey Shirley. Like your plans to get on with it and hopefully we will get desensitised to going to an empty house. Thinking about you today Shirley x
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In time we will, it took a a while after Dave died but those anxious feelings dimmed and suddenly you realised you were indoors and enjoying a cuppa and the peace and quiet .
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Really feeling emotional and fraught nearly home been a strange journey . Up until tdy my son’s have brought me home and been there over night.I hate feeling like this could just sit and cry. Fingers crossed once I’ve had a cuppa and a chat with a neighbour I’ll be ok
Hi Shirley, I’m sorry to hear that you feel so emotional. I hope you feel better when you get back into your house. It’s so hard isn’t it? Hopefully Griff will send you a message later to cheer you up.x
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Hi Shirley, the sun is shining here. You have a good cry get it out your system, turn sod the cuppa have a vino and celebrate another mile stone you’ve made it gone alone:partying_face:
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Home not gone
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My cousin was at the station to meet me she thought I might want some company going back to am empty house . She stayed for an hour and we had a good natter. Had a cuppa the washing can wait untill tomorrow. Takeaway fish and chips for tea me thinks. My daughter in law and grandson will be down to stay once the schools break up so something to look forward to and make plans for some days out.
Still a bit emotional but calmer than I was xx
Well done Shirley. A day at a time. Things don’t feel as overwhelming a day at a time. If I think further than that the anxiety takes over x
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Thank you x
Well loobyloo and Griff that’s the 1st night back over slept ok tesco delivery booked and out for coffee with Mair my cousin this morning. Morning anxiety is back but managable.Well ladies that’s another step along the way and a big tick in the box… Have a good day x
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Well done Shirley. Its a hair cut for me today and walking Boris, very dull day. You have a good day too x
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Yes well done Shirley. I hope you have an enjoyable time with your cousin today. Griff, enjoy your walk with Boris and relax while having your haircut.x
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I had my mop cut when I was down in Oxfordshire.It was like shearing sheep the poor girl said she wasn’t used to cutting so much hair and thick to boot. Enjoy your walk with Boris I hope he’s better behaved than his human namesake x