Thank goodness for our pets, don’t think I could have coped without my dog she’s never left my side.
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HI JCS
I know exactly what you are going through having lost my dear wife after 50 years together less than 2 years ago. I have found that “friends “ don’t contact me very much . People say “Oh they don’t know what to say to you and don’t want to upset you “ What I would do in similar circumstances is ring the bereaved person and just ask them how they are This should be enough to get an understanding conversation started.
I have found support groups of Widow & Widower in my area very helpful. ( There are similar groups all over the country - try Meetup or Heylo.)
I have found that you must link up with people in similar circumstances to you as only they really understand what you are going through. I hope you get to feel a bit better. I can gladly write some more about my experiences if it would help You Take care .Just remember that are lots of people on this link ready to help you if they can.
I share your loneliness as I feel it too every day of my life now without my dear wife.
It’s strange animals just seem to know how to offer us a cuddle . I did have 2 dogs when I lost my husband. Sadly I have recently lost one of them . She was an old lady nearly 15 years old . That’s the hard part about having pets . It always hard to lose them , doubly hard without my husband by my side .
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I also have just lost one of my two dogs she was 13 years, it feels like another part of my husband I’ve lost 
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That’s exactly how I feel, it’s so hard .The dog i still have is only 15 months old . We choose him together.
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My girl Dottie is 10 when we went to view the litter she was the one that came straight to my husband and tried to jump on his knee, she wasn’t the one we went to get but she’s the most adorable girl ever, 
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That so nice , my dog who was a puppy at the time. Went straight to my husband, Milo was very much my husband’s dog . He has soon got used to my routine. I would be lost without him. Look after yourself
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Good afternoon all
I know its an extra tough weekend for a few us with anniversaries. I hope everyone is ok.
I only stumbled on this forum this week, im finding comfort knowing im not alone with my feelings.
Xx
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Hi MichelleO
You mentioned anniversaries - tomorrow is my birthday the first one without my wonderful husband.
It is now 17 weeks since I last saw him, spoke to him, held him then no more.
For our 45 years together he would always do something very special for my birthday. Last year we went away for the weekend which was very hard for him as his health was not good.
He did it for me without giving his own health any thought.
As the days turn into weeks into months I miss him more than ever and I feel very lonely without him here.
Tomorrow will be ‘another first’ without him here. These ‘firsts’ do not get any easier for me, for any of us.
Thank you for just being there
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Dear Helen 39 your message struck a chord with me esp we have to have hope it’s all we have. It’s true the worst has happened so please we need hope that things can’t get any worse at least if not better .
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I am very new to the grieving process my partner died yesterday and I just feel numb lonely and lost I can’t do this it’s to painful how do you get over this I miss him so much I can’t stop crying. Xx
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Dear lex
I’m so sorry you’ve lost your partner too. We are in the same boat here but further along than you. I hope for now you have family or friends supporting you, it’s so soon.
The early days for me were a blur. For now just focus on eating what and when you can and drinking enough. Rest when can too.
We are all here for you, keep posting. There will always be someone who has experienced whatever your concerned about.
For now take one day, hour, minute at a time.
Sending you a big hug x
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Lex 1 I’m sorry you find yourself in this situation. You are not alone here, you will I hope find some solace with others going through the same. Lots of strength
Tom
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Lex1 So sorry you have joined us on this journey, as Helen says one minute,hour, day at a time. Also try to form a routine and seek out people who understand, you have already started that by posting on this site.
Thinking of you
Tony
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Lex1
Sorry for your loss , any your on the emotional rollercoaster journey. None of wanted to be on . My first few months are a blur ,take baby steps. Try to eat something even when you don’t feel up to it .i hope you have family and friends to support you on this journey. 
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Lex 1
So sorry to hear of your loss.
Very early days just try to be kind to yourself.
I know it isn’t easy it’s very hard we are all here to help you 
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I’m so sorry for your loss. Just now you’ll be feeling numb and confused. In the beginning it feels like a horrible nightmare. At five months after my partner’s sudden death I still cry on a daily basis. I hope you have some family support at this time. Try to eat or at least stay hydrated. It’s common not to be able to sleep. Your GP might prescribe something. If you’re able try to get some fresh air. I found it helped to go for a short walk. Keep posting on the site, it helps to know you’re not alone in how you feel.
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Im so sorry for your loss. Hopefully you find some comfort reading our stories and knowing you are not alone.
You will find the strength to get through it, the strength comes from somewhere
Please keep talking about partner to people, dont bottle it up. I found people avoided talking about him to me as they were worried it would upset me, but they were waiting for me to bring him up.
I found walking helped alot in the early days, I’d walk around the park and cry it out, didn’t care if anyone noticed.
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Thank you for your kind words, I’m finding it so hard to come to terms with I feel so alone 
I feel I don’t know what to do with myself I’ve not been out since it happened I can’t bring myself to face people, I just want things to go back to normal. Xx
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Hi Jo’s,
I am so sorry to hear your current hurt & live difficulties.
I lost my beloved mother to terrible cancer on Xmas day -25 in South America I am still in grieve & did not have the chance to see her & say good bye even on zoom…I just don’t want to be reminded of this month’s celebration.
It’s 2-1/2 months now & can’t move on in my life….
Yes, me too, I am very lonely & feel so most times, my grown up son feel distant from me, I he also find it hard to talk about this pain.
I really hope better days to come into your life.
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