I miss my husband so much, he was my soul mate and don’t want anyone else
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I find a local bereavement group helpful as we will listen to each other.
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I have my first one next week
I hope that it helps
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Hi all just reading your comments. I lost my beloved hubby 6weeks ago. On Tuesday I went to a bereavement group. I’m not one to share alot of personal information but after I had listened to a few of the others talk I realised the next voice talking was my own. Because we was all there for the same reason. I also had a one to one today to see if I prefered it. Again after shed got me to talk she had some very good things to say and also hit the nail on the head with something. I’m gonna try them both again next week. Perhaps that’s what need to speak to someone other than family and friends. And to realise I’m not alone. It was a relief in a way . I’m glad I went. All anyone can do is give it a try because if you don’t you’ll never know.
Xx
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Hi Tenpin, I’m glad you went to counselling, I thought you would benefit from going. Keep it up and good luck x
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Some pople have no idea what its like they so rude we had been together 42 yrs he died age 59 yrs old same as you we was supposed to grow old together , its heartbreaking waking up each day to face another lonely day without them
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My wife died 6 months ago. We were together 21 years. She was 57. She was and still is, the love of my life. I didn’t know what it was like to have unconditional love until I met her. She was diagnosed with CUP and died 7 weeks later. She was a force of nature who everyone I knew loved for her beautiful, loving and generous nature. I went for counselling immediately as I knew I would definitely need it. I have had group counselling, a walking group also, a local drop in cancer cafe and I’ve just started 121 counselling. I’m a natural talker who has found it beneficial. Were all individual. I miss my wife terribly some days but not so much on others. I was told that my grief will ebb & flow and it does. We all have to learn to live with it better as time goes by.
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Yes, its been 12 weeks today since I lost my beloved husband and everyday is a struggle without him, im not living, im just existing now, my life is empty and i just want to be with him.
I only go out when I need to and when I do I end up crying so rush home.
The house is empty and quiet without him now, it was supposed to be our forever home, but the dreams and plans for the future have gone.
Everyday I ask myself what’s the point in anything now.
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Sending a big hug.
@Poppet1973 I could have written those words myself. My “good” days are empty, my bad days are crushingly awful. 2 months on, I probably have fewer bad days. My counsellor is helping me slowly make sense of things, but I’m in for the long haul. She’s my only opportunity to talk things through, and I have a fortnightly chance to offload. Without it, I think I would be struggling more.
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@Sly7867 @Yorklan
Yes I’m going to keep up the counselling. As you wrote sly you’re in for the longhaul and my days are the same. But I keep telling myself what he wanted for me what he hoped for me. But also to try and live my life for both of us. That’s why I’m trying. I never let him down. I’m not gonna start now. Xx
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I am so sorry for your loss and ongoing pain. I lost my daughter four months ago and that’s what it is, pain. I know I need counselling because I can’t stop crying but I am not sure who to go to. So many are on line or zoom and I think face to face would be better. I am wondering about a licensed counsellor or a someone with a doctorate in counselling, I really hope it helps and you feel some relief and understanding.
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@Nightingale
I’m sorry for your loss. Yes perhaps it would do you good to talk to a counsellor. You could try looking on line . Some hospitals run their own groups as well as face to face therapists. I do believe most of these are free. But if you wanted something separate and don’t mind paying I know there is a range of prices perhaps an independent counselling session. Then you would know which suits you. I found it beneficial trying both. It opened a different perspective when I was in a group and a very deeper one doing a one to one. We all grieve differently so we need something that can be adapted to us as individuals. I’m up and down. I force myself to go out most days but I’ve decided I’m just gonna take baby steps. Remember it’ll be in your own time and own way. Time can’t take our loss away but I want to learn how to live with it. X
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I have found face to face more beneficial. I open up more when I’m talking directly to someone. I’m very lucky that my employers have an employee assistance programme which I can use to access a professional counsellor. There’s no harm in trying that route, even if it’s just to find out whether it’s for you or not.
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@Sly7867
I totally agree with you. We’re all awash with emotions so if anything or anyone can just give you that ear that will listen I don’t know maybe help? If that’s the right way to put it I’ll try. Because I wouldn’t wish my feelings on my worst enemy honestly. Xx
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Hi
I am so sorry to hear about your husband you are definitely not alone.
When I lost my Mother last July this forum helped me so much,talking with others who are going through the same deep grief I Grief is the price we pay for love!
I would say yes definitely to councilling in my experience.
I am having counselling sessions through Sue Ryder as I am still struggling with the loss of my precious Mum.
The first two sessions I just cried and that was ok,the councillor was just amazing.
I also received the text messages from Sue Ryder once a week and they always appear just when I need them.
Sending lots of love to you 
Poppet 1973 so next Wednesday you are going to see a bereavement counsellor to talk through your grief about losing your beloved husband yes it will help you with the pain in your heart just say if you need to chat to me l will be there for you any time you need to talk to me about anything about your husband Lynda
Lyndab thank you so much for the kind words