Hi my mum passed away 3 wks ago.
i wasnt expecting it as i came out of work to keep her company and care for her as she needed some help doing stuff
Her passing was traumatic and sudden and it haunts me and im so lost as she was my world.
My father passed coming up to 6 yrs and im just finding this so overwhelming and cant cope
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Iām feeling the same youāre not alone. My mum passed away suddenly new yearās day my dad died of cancer just over 5 years ago. I feel like an orphan my brother lives in Australia. I thought I was having a panick attack the other day so GP given me some meds to try to manage my anxiety. Not something Iāve suffered before this is just so overwhelming and I feel lost and out of control. Sending you love 
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awk it is just surreal xx
feeling of insecurity and loneliness 
at least we know we are not mad we arecjust in a horrible place right now xx
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Iām feeling the same too, having recently lost my dad and my mum years ago. I feel completely floored by it, the anxiety is sky-high and constant, and I still have no idea how to cope in a way that makes sense, because the world doesnāt make sense anymore. Sending hugs.
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to u and hugs
I lost my Mum 15mths ago and my Dad 38yrs ago. I feel like a adult orphan. I am on antidepressants for my anxiety and low moods. Plus, needed counselling to help me. So I can feel the pain you are all going through.
Sending hugs to you all. x
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I too lost my mum 3 weeks ago suddenly. Lost my dad 18 years ago. Iāve got my mumās funeral tomorrow and I donāt know how Iām going to get through it. Iāve just cried all day today and every day since mum died. Itās so hard having no parent to turn to.
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i feel your pain my mum passed away on 30/12/23 im broken 
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I lost my Dad unexpectedly over 20 years ago with no chance to say goodbye, and then my precious mum just 12 weeks ago after becoming her live in carer for the last 11 months and watching her deterioriate. Its hit me hard again today, the finality of it all. Our parents are the ones who we typically turn to for care/support in times of distress (or i did anyway) and now at the time where i feel i reaaly need someone to take care of me, that support is no longer there, which just highlights the huge hole they have left even more. Thinking of you all and best wishes @Larnie for the funeral tomorrow
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Today has been awful for me too, with never-ending pain. You suddenly realise you donāt have anyone who has your back anymore. Friends and partners can come and go, but your parents are always on your side and you can always go home if things turn bad. Now that safety is lost.
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I saw the funeral as a celebration of mams life. And evryone came for her. I thought how happy she wpuld be for the effort everyone put it. She will be proud of you. The hardest part of me was leaving the room (mam was cremated) and thinking that was the last time id be in the same room as her. I didnt want to leave. But everyones love made it bareable. The hardest part is after when everyone goes back to their own lives ans youre left trying to find your place in tbe world. Tahts where i am now. But people keep telling me ill find it. Suppose we all have to in our own way. I hopw tomorrow goes well for you. Just think how proud your mum would be for doing it for her ans wveryone being there.
Sending big hugs xx
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I know exactly how you feel. This is the place i am in right now. And i dont know how to deal with it x
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100% thats what ive been feeling. I dont feel i really ābelongā anywhere now because i could just totally be mysrlf with mum and we could both tell even by the sound of our voices on the phone if something wasnt right with each other. Mum would be the one whod notice if i was tired, or worry if i was stressed, and i was the same with her, we had each others backs. I dont know if i have the strength or the desire to have to now deal with all this pain alone.
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Rockstar99ā¦My mum passed away on the same date, 30/12/23 at 4am. Itās a horrible, horrible place to be. Have you had your mumās funeral yet? X
@Kerry77 thank you. I know Iāll be feeling exactly the same, not wanting to walk out of the crematorium and leave mum behind 
. I felt so comforted last week when she came back to our town to the chapel of rest and I knew she was near me once again and I could go and see her whenever I wanted.
I know thereāll be a lot of people coming to pay their respects at the service tomorrow, but tbh that makes me feel more sad because she always said there wouldnāt be many at her funeral and sheāll never know how much she was loved!
She will. Im sure shell be watching over the whole thing and so happy at it all. I have some comfort that mam is back home with me. I have a casket with her ashes here. Sheāll be with you tomorrow. She will.
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She will and so proud. You take care tomorrow. Will be thinking about you. Stay strong x
i feel the same too, i lost my mum 7 weeks ago itās still raw and it was traumatic and she died quite suddenly. all i remember i had to come home quick as her carer said she needs to go A+E and then when i went with her she wasnt well but she seems to be getting better as i left, the the following a day I get a call from one of the doctors from the hospital to say you need to come quick as her health is worsening and got there asap. next thing you she already passed and it never made any sense because she was fine earlier on and now this. iām so confused, so lost and the fact my sister being insensitive to me at the time to say you need to arrange the funeral yourself, like get a hold of yourself. I do believe im in denial and i still canāt believe she is gone. her passing had brought up my dad who passed away which will be 17 years this year. im overwhelmed and like yourself i am struggling to cope.
I dont have any family or friends to support me as i was a carer for both of my parents and itās just not them not being here i feel its not fair. atleast when my dad passed when i was 13, i had my mum for support and now i dont even have that. i feel so lost and dont even how im surviving each day.
i wish i could give you any advice, to make anyone here feel better but I really dont know how as iām too struggling to cope.
i feel more isolated, as as iām estranged from my sister and since my mum passed before christmas and new year. i just have nightmares and I havent been able to sleep. its just so overwhelming and i never felt so alone. i never thought i never have my mum for christmas last year and just coming into new year just didnt feel right without her. i just feel mixed of emotions like i have been hit by a bus or something and my world just kept falling apart in pieces.
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