I am hoping some other people will see this ,and see if their loved ones have had the same reactions . To see if some of the pieces fit together. Anyway take care of yourself ,make sure you rest and eat well. My husband 75 th Birthday tomorrow not the same without Chris .
Thereâs so many possible variables.
And cancer diagnosis isnât definitive like you would think.
Before this I always assumed they could tell you either have cancer or you donât.
Realized quickly itâs not - CT scans not that detailed and can miss tumours. MRI scans more accurate but also donât give full detail or severity.
PET scans most accurate, but also not definitive as the fdg uptake shows areas of high metabolic activity, but this isnât necessarily cancer and you have to know youâre expecting it to be cancer to make diagnosis. Itâs more often a comparative to previous scans to see if thereâs been changes and find tumour that needs to be biopsied.
Take care too and try enjoy birthday as much as possible, even though it wonât be same
Sorry to hear Noriđ
Also extremely young to have that stage of cancer.
I really donât have any advice I can give - end of life process is brutal - thereâs just no gift wrapping it.
I had really hoped, at the end and when the pain severity reached itâs climax, she would just not wake up one morning. But it was not to be.
I wish you all the strength you need and hope he just passes in the night peacefullyđ
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Nora all my thoughts are with you,I know itâs hard but try to be strong for your husband and your boys. There is nothing I can say ,but cancer is a terrible illness.Take all the help that is offered to you. Lots of hugs and kisses to you and your boys
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@Pest @MemoriesOfUs I have been reading your posts and would like to say that I am very sorry for your loss. @Nori I am sorry that you are going through this. So very sad.
I lost my husband suddenly and unexpectedly 8 months ago. He was 53 years old. I went to work on the Saturday and Sunday my son ran me to say that dad had collapsed. Time I got home he was gone. I did CPR until the paramedics arrived. The post mortem report said that he had died of a massive rear saddle pulmonary embolism and kidney cancer which was in both kidneys. One tumor 12cm and the other tumor 4cm. We had no idea that my husband had cancer. He was working till the day before. I did get him down the doctorâs 3 weeks before but to late. He was sleeping more and had lost weight. I didnât notice his weight loss which I feel so guilty about. He had a bad back but always did as was a joiner carpenter. 20 months previously my husband had his first COVID vaccine and 2 days later he passed out and fell 3 meters at work when he was working on a stair case. He smashed his elbow to pieces. I think this mask my husband symptoms. I never got any answers so donât know if the fall cause the kidney cancer or if it came after. I was told that the cancer must of been aggressive as become ill quickly. I do wonder if he didnât have the blood clot would he still be here, would he have been cured or how would he have left. So many unanswered questions. Big hugs to you all xx
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@Nori thank you for your replyâŚmy husband had a night sweat 6 weeks before he died then a few in the last 2 weeks. The first one he thought he was going through the male menopause. Then the last few thought he had a infection. Just so terrible this life. So unfair and cruel. Just wish I could of saved him. Take care and big hugs xx
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No rhyme or reason and just unanswered questions what ifs.
I took her to India to have a specialized treatment on her liver (tare) in March and had everything riding on it. It was my pathway to a liver transplant.
When we got there, the pet scan showed the metastasis had consumed 80% of her liver and treatment was no longer possible.
Iâve agonized over if Iâd just got the scans a bit quicker, just got there a bit sooner sheâd still be here.
Day late and a dollar short - how it was all the way through. Just couldnât get in front of it.
Our crosses to bear - where their pain ends, ours continues and magnifies
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Yeah the algorithms are scarily efficient - Iâll be expecting 100âs more of these in coming weeks
Hang tough Noriđ wish I had more to say to make it easier - there just isnâtđ
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My sons went from bone to bone marrow, all his blood counts went mad. He had bruises all over his body .even his fingers were purple . They tried blood transfusions with a line blood just started leaking out . I started thinking to myself ,his name is Christopher he starting to look like Jesus on the cross. Bless him we loved him so much and still do
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Pancreatic cancer,Gastric are silent killers too. Pancreatic they canât see because it is hidden behind stomach But these are rare spread to bones like my sons . MRI ,pet scans blood test at the start showed his liver ,kidneys lungs were ok . They did think Gastric or pancreatic could be to blame but all they found was a little tiny stomach ulcer . Could not find primary. Also prostrate ok
Had to go to the Mencap office today as my son was with them in shelter housing , to work out if he was owned anything for rent or did he owned then .
They said they were in a cafe where he went , and the cafe owner asked were he was as they had not seen him for a long time. They were all so upset, bloody cancer he never smoked ,drunk, or eat a lot of red meat . Why him??
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The severity of his cancer was abnormal, esp being CUP
Wasnât a lifestyle thing or anything anyone could have changed.
My partner was the same - fit and healthy.
No rhyme or reason to it
As Nori says life just has a cruel sense of humourđ
It is good news about MRI scans for prostrate cancer. My concern is there is only so many hospitals that have MRI scanners . Sometimes it is hard enough to get appts for them.whereas blood test can be done at any Hospital and GP surgeryâs . It is not only getting the scanners it is getting staff to operate them.
Came across this web site. Pancreatic cancer wonât wait.
It is a Group trying to Campaign for earlier test and treatment for pancreatic cancer a most deadly cancer. They are finding the delay in treatment is far too long.
My husband had kidney cancer and they only found out about it because it had spread to his pelvic bone, which had started to give him pain. Luckily, it hadnât spread anywhere else and he had the kidney removed. He had three courses of radiotherapy over the next eight years on the pelvic bone but in the end it didnât have any effect and his mobility deteriorated. The cancer then spread to his prostate and other bones.
His oncologist said that the cancer in his kidney had been growing for a number of years. If only we had known before it had spread to his pelvic bone.
In pancreatic cancer they are normally fatal within 3to 4 months
My husband never had the night sweats, he was so active, playing tennis and walking a lot. His diagnosis was a complete shock. As he had hip pain, we thought he probably needed a hip replacement, never thought there was a tumour let alone kidney cancer, the primary. I remember vividly when the consultant told us, I actually told him that he must have got it wrong!
Like you said it is treatable if found early enough. A friendâs husband had it and was diagnosed because he had âwaterâ problems, apparently not related to the kidney. The tests that followed found the kidney cancer. Luckily, the cancer hadnât spread and he had keyhole surgery to remove the tumour and not the whole kidney. It hadnât spread to his bones.
I am so sorry for what you are going through.
@Rome18 my husband died suddenly and unexpectedly at 53 years old. He had undiagnosed kidney cancer which was in both kidneys. I do wonder if with treatment that he still be here now and would of been a cure. Having no answers is so hard x