Anyone else on here that just don’t want to cook anymore I used to love cooking a meal for Jim he loved my cooking but now I just can’t do it doesn’t seem worth getting the pans out for one and putting oven on or doin a casserole in slow cooker . I just get something quick and put in microwave I’m not lazy just got no interest in anything now
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I can relate to not wanting to cook and everything tasted of cardboard. Still not interested in food but 4months on I do cook.
My daughters always asking what I’m eating and sometimes go to there homes to eat.
So much has changed and still can’t believe my husband won’t come back. It’s just so hard and just plodding on. My family are just so good but I don’t want to burden them with me
I feel they have to be responsible for me. Give yourself time things won’t ever be as they were but just keep going xxx
Dear Misprint
Welcome to our community where you will find nothing but support and friendship from others. You don’t say when you lost your Jim, I’m so sorry for your loss.
I quite understand about your lack of interest in cooking for yourself, we gain pleasure from doing things for those we love and without them it seems pointless. Hang on in there, you are not alone and others will have experienced what you are feeling right now. I hope we can help on here. Keep writing.
best wishes
Miche24
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I am the same can’t be bothered live on toast lv annie
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I’m the same,used to enjoy cooking when Steve was here now can’t be bothered
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I no what you mean before john passed I cooked everyday can’t be bothered anymore just have toast I’m going to have to start eating lost 2stone since john passed lv annie x
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I don’t cook anymore, when my husband was here I made home cooked meals every night. I used to love making his favourite meals & watching him enjoy eating them.
In the early days after his death I couldn’t eat anything, then I ate nothing but boiled eggs, prawns & strawberries for weeks. Like most of us I lost over a stone in a very short time, I got asked loads of times what diet I was on that was working so well, I told them it was called “The dead husband diet” some thought I was joking!
I have slowly been able to increase the types of food I am eating & the amount but for some strange reason I can no longer eat any red meat or potatoes.
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@Keskai
@Annie11
I can relate. My beloved died suddenly on 15th December and I’ve already lost half a stone. Everything tastes of cardboard. Not doing myself any favours though as I have diverticulitis and am coeliac but find no pleasure or point in cooking for just me. Just want him back so I can cook his favourite meals for him which he was always so appreciative of 
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Sal3,so sorry for your loss,Steve passed away 14 weeks ago,I can’t believe I’m still counting in weeks as it’s now months but feels like only weeks,I Can’t cook meals now used to enjoy cooking for Steve he always appreciated home cooked food,I’m again in tears writing this
How we are all suffering thinking of you all at this sad time
Take care
Christine x
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Dear Misprint,
Yes I’m with you on the not wanting to cook anymore. I think if I have to eat another cod in parsley sauce I will grow fins!! Pete became the chef after he retired in our house and made the most delicious meals and snacks. I find it a pain doing every thing for one now. shopping, eating ,washing the list just goes on.
Let’s hope the New Year is kinder to us all.
I have just lit a candle sending peace to all of us.
Best Wishes, Jenny
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Hello. I also find cooking for just me difficult. One of those things I think it’s not easy for others to grasp, how cooking meals for each other is so much part of a relationship that works.
I miss it hugely and don’t enjoy cooking much at all now.
Occasionally I do get to cook a meal for my daughter and her family which is always appreciated and I cook the meal with joy again.
But my husband Duncans presence is so very missed and the joy I feel cooking for others again makes me feel guilty.
I do know that, on reflection, Duncan would not want me to be sad when this happens and I get a little comfort from that.
My thoughts are with you all.
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I lost my mum before Christmas and as I lived with mum like all of you I have lost interest in food. It’s not like I haven’t got anything in its just not the same cooking for yourself is it. I’m living on nibbles which I got told the other day that my eating should be back to normal I don’t think it ever will be. Sometimes I force it down because I know I have to eat somethink
To all those people who can’t eat after losing a loved one. I myself lost my husband in August and didn’t want to ear and food had no taste at all. I eat but never get any joy out of cooking and just eat anything with no joy. We have to eat or we become ill like my friend has. She lost her husband 2 years ago and never ate and now she is having lots health problems. Try to look after yourselves as your important now
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Hallo all of you who have joined in this particular chat. You are so brave even though you may not feel it. Eating is a fundamental part of keeping up our energy so we can deal with what life brings, and it expresses our love for ourselves and others. That act of planning, preparing the food and cooking it, above all - sharing something made with love is for us a vital part of life.
When we have lost the person closest to us, I know from experience that my needs didn’t matter and eating was the last thing I wanted to do. It lasted about a year for me, so I guess for some of us, especially the carers amongst us it’s a natural part of grieving.
Hang on in there, keep trying to eat and take care of you, we owe it to ourselves to live the best we can in memory of those we loved, who loved us.
with love, Miche24
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Thank you for those lovely encouraging words. My Rob and me would always make meal times special, using proper table mats and even lighting a candle and chat about the day and laugh and enjoy our meals. There seems no point now and I’ve not sat at the table since he passed away. I just snack and maybe have something if I feel like it on my lap in the evening but everything tastes like cardboard.
You are right when you say to take care of you, we owe it to ourselves to live the best we can in memory of those we loved, who loved us. Just seems so hard at the moment x
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My words exactly food tastes like cardboard but have to keep eating xxx
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Thanks for all your messages. I relate with these so much. My husband died in December 2020. I really only eat because a carer comes in and makes it for me because I am disabled and mostly bedbound. What she makes is very good mostly ready meals because of time factor.
I used to love food and my husband’s cooking. Have lost masses of weight. Size 22 down to 10. I am awaiting a further op. This one on my hip. Two knees already done. Arthritis pain in neck and hands do not help.
All I want to do is snuggle under the covers and take more medication and go back to sleep
I miss my Dave so much and the pain of that never seems to go. We were married 33 years.People say it will get better but why should it. He is not coming . back.
I have started doing some craft. My empty Pringle tubes turned into vases with Hessian and string. Food jars and yoghurt/fruit pots into pretty candle containers. I can do this in my bed. They will mostly go to a charity shop eventually. I am trying but it is all do hard. Thanks to listening to me it is a help knowing there are others going throught. I keep wondering why the Lord could not have taken us both together but His will be done.
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Hello Janet
I’m not having a good weekend it comes and goes this grief doesn’t it. You think oh ImOK then that dark cloud comes down. I look at his empty chair and think he should be sitting on it I go to bed and think he should be there too. Just can’t believe he won’t come back.
It’s terribly sad for you as your husband went and you needed him as you weren’t able to look after yourself so sorry. I hope you feel and cope better soon. There is no time limit on these things take care
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Weekends are the worst ang even though john was ill for 10months Sunday were special we had pj day so hate sundays but got daughter coming later as she knew Sunday’s were special to her dad me take care lv annie x x
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Hiya mich I haven’t sat at dining room table since john passed a feel like I cannot swallow food so just snack on rubbish lv annie x
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