It is so much harder now Steph for everyone who has lost a loved one. at least before the lockdown we could visit friends and family and go about our lives and that does help distract you even if just for a short time. I do hope that after the lockdown is over that people realise that it does not matter what status you have in life or whether you are a pauper or a billionaire if you do not have people who love and respect you and that you can turn to in a crisis you really have nothing. One of my Nan’s favourite sayings was that you come into the world with nothing and you go out with nothing but it is what you do while you are here on earth that is most important and if you can help someone then you do. Stay safe.xxx
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Yes you’re right, this situation is putting everyone backwards in their grief , all the time to think, is the worst thing in a way and not seeing family.
Your nans saying is so right, my nan used to say that aswell.
Thanks Carolann x
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Thank you all for your messages, yesterday was a very bad day again that we all have, I have a phone appointment tomorrow with my GP, see if she can come up with a plan, my neighbour has my phone number also, I just wish I could feel better, I think that I would perhaps cope a little more, thank you all again.
Richard xx
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Richard, I do feel for you, I had a bad day yesterday, but my youngest daughter is with me, it’s a lot tougher for you. Glad you’re neighbour has your number .
It does seem to hit and the feelings are horrendous, then it seems ok ish for a little while, then it hits again.
We are all here, on and off through the day x
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That is good to hear Richard. Good luck with the GP I am sure she will be able to help you. You will get through this and we are all here for you. Please take care xx
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It is good that you have youngest daughter with you Steph. Yes grief does wash over you sometimes when you least expect it. Off to sort out a report for my conference call tomorrow with our Finance Director. I am so glad I am still working. Stay safe xx
Hi all hope you are all ok x
Hi Karie How are you ?What have you been up to today ? It has been a busy day working earlier to finish a report for tomorrow then worked in the garden since the weather is dry. xx
not a lot read a couple chapters of my book. had a soak my daughters trying to occupies me she getting me to binge watch stuff but i just watch it and think chip would have liked this. its a never ending circle i try to get my mind off missing him by doing something he would like. Life is never going to be the same again and im scared im never going to stop missing him and this ache will always be there x
Hi Karie, how are you feeling today? X
I totally understand Karie. It really is too soon and too raw for you losing Chip. Please don’t push yourself too much. It is only natural that you will think of him that only proves how much you loved and still love him. You will always have lovely memories of your life together and the hurt will go and you will move forward and build another kind of life for yourself and that is what he would want for you to be happy again. It is not that you will forget him as he is with you in your heart and always will be but you will in time live with his loss. To quote my Nan again time is a great healer but you cannot rush things we all have our own time that we need to take to work through grief as no two people are alike. I have a friend who lost her partner not that long ago and she is coping better than we all thought she would but she has her days when she feels her life has stopped and she knows that life will not get better in that her husband will not be here physically but moving forward it will be a different life that she will have and she will be happy again. You will get to that stage too Karie just give it time. Please take good care of yourself. Sending lots of love and hugs xxx
lovely words Carolann and i know your right. when chip passed i was going through the motions and i thought im coping way to well with this i felt so bad, now its hit me like a tonne of bricks its been the last 5 days or so and im struggling to function now. I thought it was meant to get easier with time but i cant see the wood for the trees at the moment. I know i have to live on but to think of having a new feels like im betraying Chip x
You could never and would never betray Chip Karie. He would hate to think you were unhappy and he would tell you that. He would want you to live life to the full for him. No one ever said it would be easy to make a different life for yourself but I know you will in time but little baby steps first. It is OK to have bad days weeks even you love him and you are having to adjust and adapt your life and that is so hard. It will get easier though so don’t give up. xxx
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thank you xx
Richard, Steph, Kate and SanW how are you all ?
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Hi Carolann,
I’m ok , having a better day today , kept busy which always helps. How are you? You seem like you’ve got a busy job that keeps you occupied. X
Glad to hear you are feeling better Steph. I am just so grateful I am busy and able to work from home I am an Office and HR Manager for a web development company we have offices in Edinburgh where I am based and offices in San Francisco, London and Singapore. Most of the staff are under 30 and very demanding. Please stay safe xx
Hello Carolann, I’m fine thank you. Sweet of you to ask. I’ve been busy outside fence painting but in between time I’ve been following your chatter on here. I’m in now for food and then hopefully fit a short bike ride in before dusk. Back to work tomorrow after a nice long bank holiday weekend. Take care and stay safe. 
Hi Kate. I am glad you are ok. Not long back in from the garden have been weeding I am sure they are spreading as fast as I can dig them out !. What do you do ? Have a good day back at work and enjoy your bike ride.Take care xx
I work for the local government authority Carolann. The building is officially closed but we have a skeleton staff in. xx