im missing my old life
Karie, When I see what you are feeling, it’s as if I am reading about myself.
im not being much help to you today am I Richard xx
No I mean we are both going through the same emotions, it’s always nice to talk to you, I am ok
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suppose we just have to weather the storm x
Think your right, have to do our best, that’s all you can do
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some days its just so hard to function
Oh that’s so lovely Karie, although it’s called’ ‘don’t cry for me’ I cried my eyes out cos it’s so beautiful
Thank you x
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That is such a beautiful poem Karie. As you said Steph it says don’t cry but it is a very moving heartfelt poem that you cannot help but cry. You all seem to be having a very tough time and the lockdown is making everything so much worse. I am certain we will all see our loved ones again. My Mom oldest brother Alex was a prisoner of war in the far east and he always said that there had to be a better place on the other side as the only place you could call hell was here on earth and the more I see the more I believe it. Richard never feel you have to do anything you do not want to when / if the time comes to move Jean’s clothes you will know within yourself, There is too much pressure when someone passes to clear out all their belongings you do not need to. A family friend kept all his late Mom’s belongings for years. Nothing wrong with that at all. As you so rightly said Kate there is always tomorrow. Karie, Kate, Richard and Steph Sending you all lots of love and hugs and hope you all have better day tomorrow. Just do not be hard on yourselves take it easy. xxx
Thank you Carolann xx
Thanks Carolann, I won’t move Jeans belongings, don’t want to anyway.
Richard xx
same her chips stuff is staying put this is his home xx
just had a good talk with my daughters trying to explain how im feeling i feel a little lighter now having a good cry relieves the pressure. im off to bed now all good night god bless sleep tight xx
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Karie I have not felt good today, tonight I feel bad 111 and 999 say self isolate which I told them I have been doing for ages, but I have to say I am worried but they just say isolate, going round in circles, told them the situation I am in doesn’t make any difference, understand that they under so much stress but that doesn’t help me, I am so worried if something should happen, I thought about putting my phone numbers on here, perhaps not allowed or not a good idea, hope to talk in morning
personally i would prefer to have a contact number we were worried last week when we couldn’t get hold of you. its up to you who you give it to just make sure one of us has got it. then your have to be mindful to post on here everyday so we can keep a eye on you who ever has your number will need full name and address you can private message. keep phone near you at all times. get some rest xx
Richard if you’re feeling unwell you need to speak to your GP. When you are struggling with grief it can give you physical symptoms as well as low mood. You may need some medication to help. You are not allowed to put your personal info such as telephone numbers or email address on.
I am sorry you couldn’t connect with the counselling offered by Sue Ryder. I did last year as I was approaching the first anniversary of my husband passing away. It was a traumatic experience and although I had made real progress I knew I was starting to struggle. I had sessions that started a few weeks before and continued afterwards until I was able to cope again. You have to download the Zoom app and then you get an invite when your session is going to start. It’s a very personal experience and for me it was invaluable.
I know you have managed to explore the site and hope you can find comfort as you read other members posts, it’s the sharing and knowing that what you are experiencing is normal and we do make progress that will help. Sometimes we lapse, but we find the strength from somewhere and carry on.
Our loved ones are still with us, they were part of us and remain firmly in our hearts. Yes, you will get signs too that Jean is close by, even now just over 2 years of losing my beautiful man, I had a sign today.
I will never get over losing my husband, I don’t want to, it’s the most painful thing I’ll ever experience but I know what he expects of me, that is to continue with my journey until we are together again.
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Morning Richard I am so sorry to hear you are struggling . Jean will always be with you no matter what. Counselling does sadly not always help everyone. do you have a close family friend you can talk to on the phone or Skype. Sometimes when grief overwhelms you it feels as if you will never get through it and you think that no one understands how you feel but we do. You do need to chat with your doctor though as some medication could help you. It is hard to believe when you are grieving that things will get better. You never forget a loved one and you shouldn’t but you do in time learn to accept their passing. Jean would never want to see you sad and depressed. Please please take care of yourself. If I could wave a magic wand and make you feel happier again I would. Sending lots of love and hugs xxx
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Morning Richard,
Hope you feeling a bit better this morning.
Karie’s right, if you want to private message Karie or anyone , then do that, as Karie said she would be happier to feel we can keep in touch if you’re worried. I’m sure someone on here put their email address on this site , and it was taken off by sue ryder, but they said that you can private message someone. It’s all for safety with your details.
Is there a neighbour that can have your number, in case you are worried?
Take care
Steph x
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Thank you Carolann for your kind words
Steph x
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