Can't deal with it

Losing a partner
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Just cats atm, I need to do my car , might do it later x

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Hi everyone,

Since there has been some discussion in this conversation about exchanging phone numbers and personal details, I just wanted to remind you that our guidelines ask you not to share personal contact details to protect your own privacy and security. Personal details posted in public forum posts will be removed (I know none of you were suggesting doing this). If you do chose to share them in a private message, please remember that this is at your own risk and Sue Ryder can’t moderate any communication that takes place off our site.

Priscilla
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Hi Priscilla , That may have been me and I realised that it maybe not a good idea, then someone said not to, so I would only do this on a private message.
Richard

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Hi everyone hope your all doing ok :pray: Richard I’m sorry to hear you’ve had such a horrible sad few days. My heart goes out to you. I’ve been feeling a bit crap myself so many things running around my head once you try to relax or sit down for a bit that’s when my mind works overtime. I was told a few things about my partner it’s knocked me right back just when I thought I was coping but hey words are words but it still hurt. But I’m back now no time or space for any more negativity in my life. Big hugs to you all :heartpulse::revolving_hearts::revolving_hearts::revolving_hearts:

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Hi Alex,
Good to see you back, sorry you’ve had a bad few days, hope you ok x

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Thanks Steph I’ve got to be cried buckets because I don’t know what to believe anymore I really really don’t xxxx

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Oh Alex, don’t know what to say, sounds like you’ve been having a hard time :kissing_heart:

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Hi Alex, we all seem to be having bad days at the moment, hope you feel better soon
Richard

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Never a truer word spoken I’m having the time from hell I really am. I just don’t know what to do I’m on my own like us all I’m so sad n down :sweat::sweat::sweat::sweat::sweat:

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I’ve lost so much weight I’m just picking n forcing myself to eat wish I wasn’t on my own it’s torture it really is. If you spoke to me in the phone you’d never ever know there was anything wrong n that’s what I have to do when I’m on the phone to certain ppl you have to to protect them :sweat::sweat::sweat::sweat:

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It’s hard putting on a front when you’re hurting inside , you just want to scream x

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Oh Steph I want to scream n tell people to just f### off leave me alone I don’t want to hear anymore because what I was told wasn’t nice at all they might aswell have put a knife through my heart and twisted it :sweat::sweat::sweat::sweat:

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Oh god some people make things a hundred times worse, it’s hard enough anyway, you need to eat properly and try and look after yourself, sod everyone else x

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I know Steph but when your on your own it’s like oh I’ll just have some crisps or I can’t be bothered I don’t know what to do I feel just stuck groundhog Day :sweat::sweat::sweat:

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I know what you mean , I only cook because of my daughter here, otherwise I think I’ll just be eating crisps and s**t , it is hard on your own . Wish your sons lived nearer x

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Oh I do Steph they ask me what I’ve had to eat and I find myself lying to them so they don’t worry and that alone kills me more than anything :sweat::sweat::sweat::sweat:

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You have to protect your children don’t you so I know I’m only doing it so they don’t worry about me especially with this lockdown :sweat::sweat::sweat:

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Shame we don’t all live nearer, but then it’s the bloody lockdown x

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Hi Golam
I felt like that, sometimes still do. I lost my hubby 13 months ago. If it wasn’t for my kids…well, ya know, thank god I have them. They say times a healer, I wouldn’t say that. Don’t think my heart will ever fully heal but i can actually (sometimes) talk about him without breaking down now. I still talk to him, ask him questions, kiss his picture before I go to bed and again when I wake up in the morning. We’ll never get over this but, apparently, we’ll get through it. So sorry for your loss, I, and I believe many others here feel your pain. Things are hard enough dealing with grief let alone the isolation/virus stuff that’s going on right now. Stay strong and stay safe

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Hi Fillyfox, It is very hard to cope with what is going on, sorry for your loss, it must be a comfort that you have your children with you, earlier days for myself but I do the same things that your doing, Take care.
Richard x