Hi Richard sadly some do see the news but do not pay any attention as they are selfish and thankfully for them have not had to deal with loss as yet. How are you feeling now ? xx
Hi Carolann, still don’t feel good just seems to stay the same each day.
Hi Fillyfox I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It is good that you have your kids that is a bonus. Of course you miss your husband and there is nothing wrong in talking to him at all. It is too soon for you to be able to even think about moving on. You will always have him in your life and time does help but right now it will seem as if that you will never feel any different than you do just now. Sadly there is no set timescale for grief. Take care Sending you love and hugs xx
I am so sorry to hear that Richard. I wish I could make your pain go away. I am sure once the meds kick in they will help. At least if you can get some sleep that would help. xx
I hope so to Carolann, but I can’t get them until tomorrow
Hi Alex I am sorry to hear that you have been told some things about your partner no wonder you are feeling crap. The person that told you all this are they trustworthy? Remember no matter what they said your partner loved you and you loved him in the end that is all that really matters. It is dreadful to think someone can hurt you like that. Sending you love and hugs back xx
I know it is so difficult for you Richard to get some sleep it is not easy when your mind is racing all the time. Have you tried warm milk with some cinnamon before you go to bed ?
You are right Steph it is a pity we don’t all live closer to each other at least we could talk to each other personally even if it was 2 metres away. Alex and Steph you do need to try and eat properly and look after yourselves for your families or they will worry about you even more. xx
you def have to work hard to win anything on the chase did you watch hardball quiz i like that one as well
Hi Karie how are you ? The Chase is brilliant. Never seen hardball quiz sometimes watch Tipping Point. xx
Richard. I could have wrote this myself. like you i dont know why its getting worse. It may have been a bit soon for watching the film especially what it is about as well. I haven’t watched the chase since chip passed when i used to get home at night we would put it on and see who was the smartest that day. i have always watched it but i cant at the moment. There are some things i can embrace and others im avoiding like the plague. I am still writing to chip of a night most of it is ramblings. i held him all night last night usually i nod off with him then wake up and put him on the bedside cabinet last night i didnt let go of him. Richard your emotions are normal and i know you feel knotted up inside and you cant see a way out of it. Crying hurts more and tires you out you may feel like hitting something. Let those emotions go do what ever it takes scream shout cry you can not run from feelings. You have to grieve Jean its important i tried avoiding it and it smacked me in the face big time recently. I would give anything to feel chips arms around me i even try and imagine him hugging me i try to feel it. I hope when this lock down is over you can try and get some normality in your life. I dont think grieving ever ends we learn to deal with it
Alex. I dont understand why anyone would tell you stuff that hurts you unless they had a hidden agenda. You need to process this information properly people can be cruel make stuff up or exaggerate why tell you stuff now whats the point. I can only imagine what your going through. If you want to talk about whats been said please inbox me.
Hi Karie, I have not heard of hardball quiz
I know Karie it just seems to have got a whole lot worse these last few days, I know I shouldn’t have watched that film but I was unaware of the content, don’t think I want to see the rest of it.
Can’t say that I have tried that but I will try anything if may help, only I haven’t any cinnamon
its usually on twice a year think its bbc 1
when your ready watch it till the end because i do think its lovely ending but the contents probably arnt the best for how your feeling at the moment. its got hard dont know if full on grief takes a while or the situation we are in is making it worse. For me i think i just started to realise Chip wont be back and i cant handle that. My daughter has to pop out she asked if ill be ok i said im fine i got chip he wont let anything happen to me, Then i looked at his picture and started to cry.
Ok I will look out for it
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I think for myself I didn’t have time, as I had a lot of affairs to sort out and arrangements to make, then after that there was nothing for me to do, then the lockdown and it gives you too much time to think about
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yeh i totally get that. the 1st couple weeks it was arrangement’s etc. then nothing just emptiness