Hi, some of you are are possibly being hard on yourselves and expect to be coping better after only a few weeks/months. I am over a year along and still have days of pain and tears, although I must admit that I do see that light at times which encourages me. Don’t try to rush it, grieve and try to accept those bad days it’s all part of the process.
When I lost my husband I didn’t want to be surrounded by people. I wanted to be alone, to be able to cope on my own and not rely on other people. I didn’t want to stay with family or have any of them stay with me. Of course some of them was there if I wanted help but I didn’t want to rely on them and I hoped when I was ready I would start to socialise again and this did happen. I wanted to be good company for anyone that had time for me, so now I feel more than capable of coping with this isolation time. I still walk my dogs and take the exercise and find plenty to keep me occupied. But I do still have those bad days so don’t expect too much from yourselves.
Good luck
Pat xx
Morning How are you all today ? Did you get any sleep ? Hi Pat you are so right. There is no timescale on grief and everyone handles it differently. We all need to be kind to ourselves. Try to get some cinnamon when you are out today Richard not saying the hot milk is the answer but it might help you. Alex I had a feeling that the person who was nasty to you is actually jealous of you and wanted to hurt you deliberately. Difficult though it is please try to ignore what they said. You have people in your life your life who love and care for you and do not want to see you hurt. Hope you all have a much better day. Stay safe and well. Sending love and hugs to you all xxx
Dear Karie,
There are some nasty spiteful people in this world of ours’.
Someone once said to me, believe only 50% of what you see and only 1% of what you told.
Alex please don’t let the words of a horrible person, spoil your lovely memories.
good saying Mary x
Oddly enough my Nan used to say that Mary xx
how is everyone today x
Hi Karie,
Been keeping busy today , so no had time to let myself think.
How are you feeling today? X
sad but ok ran out of stuff to do now so not so busy xx
I Steph n Karie lovely to hear off you both been in work today just finished a 12 hr bk to an empty house to his is where I start to think lots n do my own head in hope you’ve both had as good a day as you can in the horrible situation 
nothing worse to coming home to a empty house. After work i get in at 10pm chip always had the house warm dinner done and a cuppa waiting. I have asked if one of my girls could be up when i get home because i know that is going to be the hardest. Hope your ok Alex and i hope each day gets a little bit easier maybe leave the radio on or tele and a light make it feel more like someone is home xx
That’s the thing there’s only so much you can do before you have to stop at some point .
Are you working atm Karie x
Hi Alex, hope you ok , bet you’re tired after work. X
I do at night can’t sleep in the dark for some reason silly I know I know Karie I use to come home to something cooking my bath done n just have a little catch up about my day xx
The evenings are the worst, can’t watch some things on the telly, it’s so quiet x
few hours a week at the mo steph but it gets me out
those are the things we miss the most Alex xx
i am ok with the evenings more then the days i try to sleep half the day away just so it goes quicker x
I know torture isn’t it it’s not fair life’s not fair was ok in work very busy and it helps me done some sit ups on my break I need to do kind of exercise tone my body bk up. Because I’ve lost weight need to tone my body can’t afford to lose weight I’m only dainty anyway like 5ft 1 so don’t want to look like a sparrow to be honest I’m not far off it 
Im glad your focusing on your health and mental well being Alex x
That’s good, I’ll be looking for something after this craziness is done x