Thankyou so much i have kept all this for over 40 years eating me away yes i do feel some relief but all the memories of what she did continue to haunt me
Mike
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Hi Mike,
Have you had any counselling? I am no expert but from your comments it could be helpful & might well stop you feeling so haunted. Just an idea.
Take care of yourself. xx
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I have tried talking but the councillors only interested in the bereavement not of the problems that have happened previously
Thank you for your kind support
Mike
I dont think that i am ready to talk face to face i am so hurt and embarrassed that i should have let this happen and not stopped her its easy to talk on this site maybe because i can put it into words without being judged i know that the subject is very difficult to discuss but i would like to tell all my story over time.
Mike
My bereavement counsellor also sees people who need counselling with a whole range of other issues. It may be worth your while looking around to find out if you have a counsellor in your area who could help you.
From what I have read, most counsellors do not just offer bereavement counselling.
John, I do think you need to find help quite soon.
@warriner21 @Rome18 I dont think that i can really contribute to this site as yes i have lost someone but it would be untrue to say a loved one i had hoped that i could of gained from expressing how i feel but i now think its time to delete my account
I would appear that because i told some of my story which i had endured from my late wife i have upset many people i used to get comments and support but after i posted it has now stopped if i have upset anyone this was not my intention.
I have been totally ignored by friends and neighbours and now on this site i am very hurt that i have caused this issue.
I can but only leave the site and remove my account
Mike
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I just want to reassure you that we know that many of us have complex relationships with the people who have died. In our most recent survey, we didnāt use the phrase, āloved oneā as we know that itās not always how someone would refer to the person whom they are grieving.
Your feelings and your grief are valid and real and you deserve support. The community is here for anyone who is grieving, and here for you.
You have been so brave sharing your story here with us and it can be hard sharing something you never have before and it can sometimes leave you feeling vulnerable. Some members have suggested counselling or therapy. You can visit your GP and ask for their support. You can also find a counsellor privately too - British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) is a good place to start.
If you do want to delete your account thatās absolutely fine too - just email us at online.community@sueryder.org. Thereās also the option to deactivate your account so you can come back to it in the future.
Take good care,
Seaneen
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You havenāt upset me Mike I just didnāt know what to say . I have just lost my Dad and love him dearly ā¦ and miss him every minute ā¦
You are obviously going though a lot and have been through a lot . I think you should stay on here . Maybe start a thread about difficult relationships? Iām sure someone can relate x
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Hi, I canāt see why you would of upset anyone and feel you have to leave the site. Your loss is your journey no one elseās. And whatever you feel it is ok to feel it. Itās good that you are able to be honest about your feelings. Hope you havnāt left and keep posting if you need to
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