Hi im having a mini meltdown.
Is it normal to still be crying daily after 14 months?
Most days its not much, maybe a few tears or wet eyes, but today, the tears just keep coming. I’m ok while I’m gardening, but my back started aching so I had to stop
I’ve had a rest crying continually.
So now I’m going to do a bit more gardening
Sorry to be so miserable
Liz x x 
That sounds nice
II always forget about jacket potato. Not that I have potatoes indoors now. I only buy what I"m going to use.
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Hugs, Liz. You’re not being miserable, just human. Grief doesn’t stop after 14 months. xx
Until recently I cried at some point every day and I am now coming up to 23 months. Time doesn’t denote when the crying stops.
ThanksKathy and Sandra. I rang my sister and she’s been brilliant but now she’s saying I should see the doctor. I’m not going down that road.
I just needed to know that its normal.
That’s why this group is so important to all of us. We all understand
Love and hugs
Liz x x
It’s perfectly normal. People are well meaning, but unless they’ve been through it, they simply don’t understand. xx
There is no set time for grief.
If we love, we grieve.
Bug hug xxxx
Big hug, I have left the bug outside xx
Thanks Linda, you made me laugh.
X x
Just been tidying up the patio outside the front door.
More or less finished.
My reward? A mug of tea and a cherry and sultana scone
(and a little bit of a second one) xx
Thanks Kathy, I really didn’t beieve about the 2nd year. How could it be worse.
Now I’ve found out, but its different. More intense maybe
I try to keep busy, I think thays the only way forward now x x
Ok, I am just finishing the second scone 
My reward will be a glass, or 2, or 3 of the wine I gave up yesterday. It didn’t work yesterday either.
Its pub tomorrow so no chance.
Well I will give up the wine because I drink brandy and coke in the pub 
X x
Liz cry when you need to. Your body and mind doesn’t go by a calendar.
This group has helped me stay sane or felt heard is probably more appropriate.
Linda good for you to indulge. I am trying not to worry about losing weight right now. Too much going on.
Just did a 20 mins brisk walk to de-stress from work. Worn out now but will nip to the store for ready made chicken and salad. Maybe a treat too.
Sandra glad you can keep up with your carers and meals! 
Siobhan
Linda, so sorry to hear about your friend, thinking of you and her. Thank you also for lighting candle on Sunday, much appreciated as usual.
I hope everyone else is having an ok day as much as possible. I pressure jetted patio but took me couple of hours to work out how to set up pressure jet, not normally my job. After few tears worked it out and felt quite pleased 
with myself.
Off to funeral tomorrow, not looking forward to it. First one I’ve been to since my husband’s.
Love to everyone and hope your evening is ok
Hugs Linda 2 xx
Sending love and hugs xx
Linda2 well done for figuring out the jet wash. Hugs to you for tomorrow. Xx
Siobhan
Linda so sorry to hear about your friend. Must be so upsetting for her and her husband. Is she going to have treatment? Of course I’ll pray for them both.
Liz yes that quote does help a lot. We tend to think only of the bad stuff and not all the good times.
Siobhan sorry you are having so much difficulty with the pension people. I was lucky in that Ken’s pension people were very good and it was all sorted out really quickly. I had to wait 3 months for the first payment but it was backdated.
We’re all here for you and each other.
Sandra Ken loved lasagne. I used to make a huge one and freeze half so there was some in the freezer. Ken liked pasta with Parmesan too. As you say, quick and easy.
Ok jacket potato it is then.
Liz as you know by now, everything is normal for grief. I’ve not been good today either. Went to sit fit but was thinking of Ken and being anxious all the time. As you say, some days wet eyes only other days loads of tears.
I cried while I was washing my hair today. Upside down using the shower head over the bath. That was a strange experience.
Thanks Sandra it’s good to know that the tears are normal also there may be a point when they get less. Which is also good to know.
Linda that made me laugh about your scone
Siobhan hope you get a treat too. You deserve it.
Linda 2 well done on the patio cleaning. You’re brave going to a funeral. Hope you manage ok.
I’ve got a church meeting tonight so I m not eating till I come back. I’ve prepared a salad so all I’ve got to do is eat it and pour a glass or two of wine.
So pleased to be part of this group. You’re all so supportive and lovely x
Thinking of you for tomorrow. Well done not giving up on the pressure washer.
Such a healthy meal. Burger (no bun) and chips tonight and a small glass of muscadet.