It was my Granddaughters birthday a few days after Rogers funeral. As much as it hurt I had just signed it Granny.
She straightaway said " but you’ve not put Grandad Roger in the card" I asked her if she wanted me to and she said yes.
She’s 26 and was Rogers step granddaughter but she loved him.
So when it was the next one in May I put him in but the next one is in November and it will be nearly 9 months, do I still do it?
Everything becomes a dilemma when they leave us.
I don’t think I will put him on Christmas cards.
Its so hard to know what to do
Hiya Liro it is so hard but I have started signing them from me and Millie, i cry each time I have to do a card. Its a killer. But I dont want to hurt anyone else or they think I have lost the plot. Which I have lol by signing them from me and Gra hugs Jo xxxx
Hi everyone
Regarding the cards and signing.
I feel that with my Sam passing away I have had to take so much off him.
Things I had no idea I would have to do.
Take his name off bank accounts,
building society and all utility bills sell his much prized car every thing, contact the land registry to take his name off the house deeds.
I felt terrible like I was wiping him away.
So I will put his name in his memory on our cards.
Probably sounds daft and when the recipient
gets them will be surprised .
It will hopefully make me feel a bit better.
Love and comfort to all.
Doreen x
Hi Jo,
I need you guys tonight.
My Sam passed away at 10-30 tonight 22 weeks ago.
I am desolate and all alone I am sitting in our bed and longing for him to be here.
I have covered the clock so I can’t see the time of his death.
Am I actually going mad ?
I need him to be with me but he can’t ever be
ever again.
I am grateful though that it’s me and not him
I couldn’t bare this for my wonderful Sam.
The weekends are very difficult for me but a Saturday is absolutely terrifying and at night
It’s like a looming horrible and never going
away reminder.
Just please god and anyone else try to help me through the night.
Love and comfort to all.
Doreen x
Hiya Doreen i am here for you, your not alone we all care, please reach out to us , wevknow how you feel. Tomorrow will be 20 weeks for me I have cried so much tonight. I am sending you loads of love and hugs jo xxxx
I am here to virtually hold your hand, I wake up at2am every night as that is the time Ray died in our bed with me beside him. We are all here with you.
Thank you liro
I had the Tv on and was watching The Quartet
With Maggie Smith and Billy Connelly.
We had watched it together last time it was on
and really enjoyed it.
The classical music and the memories were
Too much but I watched it.
To remember it together was lovely but had me in tears .
I am a mess but I have read the support I have on here and my god I am so grateful.
I could not get through the night with out you
all.
Lots of love from Doreen and Sam he would be very proud of how your support is helping
Me
Love Doreen
You put it into words so well Doreen. ‘I need him to be with me but he can’t ever be, ever again’ That longing for them to be with us is such a desperate feeling. Saturdays are bad for me too. Andy died next to me suddenly on Saturday morning 20 weeks ago. It helps me to think that he has just gone on ahead of me and that I need to make the best of the time I have left here on this earth before I follow him. In a way this grief is a continuation of our marriage. We can take them with us in a spiritual sense. Its good to keep talking to them. Blessings All.
Morning Liro,
So have I its 20 weeks today, my eyes fill readly and the lump in my throat never goes away.
But I am up showered and dressed.
I am going to start painting and emuloshing the living room today.
Hugs to us all Jo xxxx
