Yes i know exactly what you mean, ive realised just how much my husband did, to even putting out the bins etc, yes also dealing with mot’s on the car, I just feel totally lost and on my own with this
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It all sickens me how it is but that is because I’m older, alone and depressed. . . Everything to do with it I just want to go away. .
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I am really struggling with Xmas. Shan’t be putting up decorations or doing anything. I have agreed to go to my daughter for Xmas dinner. But really can’t wait for it all to be over. I’m really not coping at all. It’s been two and a half years and I’ve had to move house and have work done and got so many things wrong. And I just cry a lot and feel so lonely and abandoned. Can’t see myself ever being ok again. How can I without him? He was what made life worth living. Now there’s nothing left.
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This will be my 7th Christmas without my lovely wife of 40 wonderful years together it never gets easier.
I’ll be going to my daughters again this year then coming home to an empty house hopefully we all get through it Christmas time always the worst time.
Take care
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I feel the same, I lost my partner suddenly on 26th of September. We were going to my sister for Christmas this year but now it’s just me. I don’t know how I’ll get through the day. I’ve managed to get some Christmas presents organised but my heart is just not in it at all. My Partner loved Christmas decorations but I just can’t open the box where they’re stored, it’s too upsetting, the garden has no tree lights either. I just wish this horrible anxiety would pass and maybe I could think more clearly.
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I’m so sorry for your loss I hope you can get through this time which is always difficult this time of year.
I understand your pain thankfully I have my daughter to visit on Christmas Day I wish I could advise you how to get through this time hopefully your family will support you.
Take care and look after yourself
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Lost my Ray 8 weeks ago, so going to lock the door and shut the world out on Christmas Day. He hated it anyway, so I won’t worry too much about it. But I’ll probably sob my heart out as it was always just the 2 of us here and our little cat. The worst part is we’d go away for a break on Boxing Day, now that’s when it will really hit home that he’s gone. He was my world
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I miss him so much. 2 and half years now. Just so hard still. All the decs are still in the garage where he replaced them . I can’t bear to even look at them. I am not doing anything over Christmas.
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I’m so sorry for your loss I know and feel what you are going through.
I hope you start feeling better soon they say time is the healer I suppose we all deal with our loss differently I hope you have your family to support you through this time.
Thankfully I have my daughter to visit on Christmas Day I hope I’ve been some help but you will start to feel better as time passes you need your family support too.
Have you give counselling a try that does help having someone to talk to it helped me in the early stages of my loss through Sue Ryder. I hope I’ve been of some help
Please take care and look after yourself
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So sorry for your loss I understand what you are going through it took me a long time to put any decorations up put only small items my late wife would like to see.Christmas time will always be different now for me l have to stay positive for my daughter and son in law.
I hope you have family to support you through Christmas take care and look after yourself
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I lost my husband 4 months ago suddenly and so unexpected, im still thinking he will come back to me and its all a dream, the thought of never seeing him again makes me ill and knots in my stomach, I can’t imagine life without him, we were always together and I just feel I have lost my rock and soul mate, what do I do without him, I hate the loneliness on my own, im not coping at all
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Same, lost my husband in Oct and we have an 18mth old who I just keep thinking should have his dad here to take him to see Santa and the lights and to be there on Xmas morning, it’s just so sad
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I lost my husband at the end of July, we had 59 years together, married for 55years.
I am dreading Christmas. We were never into big Christmas celebrations but saw our two daughters and their partners and our grand daughter. Most of all we enjoyed our time spent together, laughing and chatting sometimes going for a walk whilst Christmas lunch looked after itself!
I have put up the Christmas tree and found the Christmas cards we sent each other last year. I had packed them away with the tree, I must have known what would happen later in the year. So I have put those cards up on the mantelpiece and cried buckets full of tears whilst i did so.
Now I am on my own. Yes i have been invited to one of our daughters for lunch but the time will be spent with couples and I will be alone with my thoughts of who I am missing.
I will put on a brave face, I wear that face quite a lot at the moment but at some point of course I will be returning to an empty house and the tears will return and the brave face abandoned.
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I am going through the exact same as you, we did everything together, had our little tradition and now im on my own, i can’t even face putting the tree up, I found a Christmas card my husband had already bought for me but not wrote on it, I will have to put on a brave face at my daughters for Christmas, but then like you said , its back to the lonely empty house and the tears again, I hate this .
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Sorry for all your losses It feels much worse this time of year. Dark gloomy and cold no wonder.
I didn’t really like Xmas now the kids are grown, I did it for my wife she loved it.
Now she is not here what’s the point. It will be my second on my own just feel like the grinch in fact my wife called me that numerous times.
Last year I put the cards up only, this year my son who still lives with me said we should put a few decorations up.
I said just a few life can never and will never be the same now she’s gone. Don’t feel like Xmas and possibly never will.
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I feel the same, what’s the point in Christmas decorations when there’s only me now, I also lost my husband suddenly and so unexpected to heart attack, it was horrible and the feeling of living without him now is horrible, what a lonely life it is.
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My husband went sudden and unexpected with a heart attack. I was also the grinch. We had an in joke with me fighting the festivities and him getting all the lights etc out . I’m working 25/26 I’m just trying to get through it. He loved this time of year. Nothing anyone can say is there.
I agree with your responses life is so so precious and can be taken in a second.
My wife had a cardiac arrest she was gone in seconds despite mine and the paramedics attempts to resuscitate at least I was there for her and tried.
It’s coming up two years in June and at the moment life feels no better.
I have booked a holiday on my own next July don’t really know why but I can not carry on doing nothing so let’s see how it goes it can be no worse than the crap 1.5 years since she passed
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Hi i also had to do cpr on my husband until the paramedics came, it was horrible and eats away at me, I feel so lost without him, we had holidays planned but I couldn’t do them on my own, he was my rock and we did everything together and now I dont know what to do, its horrible.
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I understand and yes it was an absolute nightmare and the same as you no good outcome but at least we tried I was trained to do this for my job so I think I did it correct. I saw it in her eyes she was gone before the came but I tried and nearly collapsed trying it is very trying.
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