Really struggling with the loss of my Dad - wondering if anyone has experienced the same struggle.
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Absolutely- lots of us here are . It’s horrendous . How long ago did he pass ? My Dad is 3 and a half months . I Struggle and cry daily- I miss him so
Much 
Lots of support here- you aren’t on your own xx
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It is absolutely heart breaking. I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s been 8 weeks for me and I feel like I don’t know how to do life without my Dad. I’m the same, cry all the time. Recently gone back to work and I’m really struggling.
Sending you big hugs x
I’ve only just gone back as a phased return last week I just couldn’t face it . Could you have any longer off ? Or do you think it will help ? Everyone is different…
Lots of love x x
I have a meeting with work tomorrow to discuss a phased return. I just keep crying, comes out of nowhere. Heartbreaking . How are you finding a phased return?xx
@TSB as @Laura8 says there’s lots of us here struggling to process the loss of our Dads this year. It’s 8 months for me & the pain is immense at times yet an ache at others. We know how you feel & understand your struggle. Xx
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Not great to be honest but I don’t think they will be willing to let me have more . Message on here anytime , lovely supportive people xx
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Hi I too lost my dad this year to pancreatic cancer. July and since i feel like my world has turned upside down. The emptyness of never being able to talk or phone comes in waves
I went part time at work , I keep thinking is this going to get easiery mom has dementia has never cried 
so painful
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@Fatcat So sorry for your loss.
I completely understand the feeling of the sadness coming in waves, hits you out of nowhere.
It’s a cruel world but as you can see, we’re not alone in this, really appreciating the messages on here.
I’m the same - 9 months since I lost my Dad and sometimes the pain is so overwhelming and theres no stopping the tears and other times its a numbness, just going through the motions with an ache in my chest
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8 weeks on Thursday since my dad passed. Seem to have coped OK until now. The tears, the anger, lack of patience, frustration and just not being able to concentrate is getting me this week. Do any of you wish there was a manual telling you how to feel and what to do to cope? I’m at work, and my team is incredibly supportive. But. Well, there’s just the big “but”. I’m not OK, it’s all carrying on as normal, but i just want my dad. Folk say it takes months and years and it scares me.
I feel selfish. Dad had Alzheimer’s and is no longer struggling. He went at the right time for him. I know that. And others aren’t so lucky in having a dad/daughter relationship like we had. So i should feel lucky in a way. So many questions, frustrations, feelings, but no answers.
Sorry for rambling. Just needed it out. Been sleeping OK, but tonight is first through the night weeping.
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I lost my mum in Aug 23 watched her slowly die of cancer, now i am watching my dad die slowly of heart failure and kidney failure, My biggest fear was that they would die close together, unfortunately it is going to happen. One day at a time, somedays i feel nothing others i cry, Sadly i haven’t had time to think of grieving for Mum as we been looking after dad just hope i have the strength when 2 losses hit me at once.
I lost my dad in October last year. I’ve been struggling deep down but not spoke to anybody that I’m struggling. Mainly because people in my family are struggling too and I think to myself it’s not fair me telling them how I’m feeling when there are feeling the same way as me. I’ve been putting on a brave face when I’m with people but when it comes to been on my own I cry because I miss my dad so much.
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I relate to struggling to talk to your family as they are also grieving. I’ve been amazed by how lonely grief is even when others around you are also in it. Plus we all knew the person as someone slightly different based on our experiences with them. I lost my dad last summer, and I’m finding things particularly hard at the mo. Maybe the short days and Christmas coming up.
Sending you strength, and to everyone on this post 
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Christmas is especially hard and this will he the second 1 without my dad. Sorry for your loss. I never thought I would feel grief like this never thought I would loose a parent not this soon in life. Things happened very quickly. I’m still finding it hard to process it all and it’s been 14 months since we got told his diagnosis.
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Hi Charlene, i really feel for you. I’m in my 30s too and you just don’t expect it this young. My dad had cancer that eventually spread to his brain (I can see from your profile you lost your dad to a brain tumour). There is so much trauma wrapped up in it all.
Feel free to private message me if you want to just tell your story to someone who will understand or just share random thoughts xx
Hello @TSB . I lost my Grandad 8 weeks ago, but he fulfilled the role of Dad to me & I thought of him as my Dad.
I feel very lost without him. Although he had Alzheimer’s & Vascular Dementia for many years before he died, it was comforting knowing he was there. Now I am sad that he doesn’t know I am buying a flat & about to adopt a dog - he loved dogs & he wanted nothing more in life than to see his girls settled.
I can work & do household chores & even enjoy some hobbies, but in my heart I am grieving. I have dreams of him every night. I cry often. No one really asks me how I am doing anymore. I feel like I’m lugging around a stone all the time.
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I’m struggling today, lost my dad 20 days ago. Funeral was 8 days ago, which lifted a huge weight but today from nowhere I’m gutted again, incredibly sad and crying again. I’m due to go back to work on Monday too. When does it start to get easier……
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@MrsM2023 I’m 8 months into this journey & still don’t find it easy. I’m blindly going thru the motions of a day. I naively thought after the funeral I’d feel better, but it didn’t happen. Dad’s still gone. I’m worried I’m going to be one of those people that never comes to terms with it. That’s why I come here to be with others who know how this feels. X
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I lost my dad in March of last year. Around this time last year I had 6 sessions of online counselling with Sue Ryder and it really helped me. I don’t know whether it’s the time of year, the fact he would have turned 75 in October had he lived, or what but I’m struggling this month. Very emotional and overwhelmed with everything. You’re still so very early into your grief journey - do what you need to do for you. There’s no right or wrong way to deal with it and perhaps you need some more time off work to help you process things. Xxx
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