I’m touched by some of your post. Especially Doug being older than you by 18years. My Husband was 20years older but outwardly he was so young looking and had a fitness level of much younger. I lost him the day after my 50th birthday. I’m 56. The “imagined” eventuality was that he’d be here to help me with losing Mum but nature had other ideas and I lost him first. I no longer have a family member that’s older than me, that’s a difficult realisation. But, as a believer I too believe in eternal life and when I’ve been so desperate Ive remembered that ending things “isn’t allowed” if you have hopes of eternal life. Plus I’m a coward too.
Keep going Debbie xx
I think I might have a look at Snowflake Mountain today, saw it advertised the other day and it looks funny. An unproductive day on the sofa watching tv with my dogs today.
@Tina19 I feel like having a partner when you’ve lost your mum would make things easier, having that constant support. My brother lives with his partner but he’s still in as much pain as me, I think it’s just the idea of not being alone that I really envy.
It’s impossible to go to a supermarket for just one thing isn’t it?!
Hi Tina
A very quiet weekend for me this week. Mum and I never used to do much on a Sunday but now on my own the weekend really dragging. Had 3 weekends out in a row and now indoors the loneliness seeping back in
Hello to everyone. Christine hope you will be able to post again soon
Love and best wishes
Neil x
Hi Lucy
Yes just Mum and I here after Dad passed away over 6 years ago. Everywhere I look are reminders of her and the life we used to have.
Made a call to Samaritans earlier as that is one way I can cope and feel a bit better now .
I think it’s because I’ve had 3 weekends out at shows and nothing planned this weekend and its just seemed to drag especially today .
Will see what the finances are like next weekend and will try and get out .
Love and best wishes
Neil x
Hi Neil, was wondering if you were up to anything this weekend. A friend of mine suggested looking at. 15 mile or so radius on the map and finding all the free and cheap attractions like museums, parks etc - find those hidden gems
I think we are all feeling the pinch this year, another stress we can all do without
Have you got plans for tonight. I think I am going to watch some naff tv after a day in the garden.
So todays before and after May look like I’ve made it worse but there is method to the madness!
The holly is self seeded and probably not wise to keep it so close to the house. The yew/hebe thing is very overgrown and behind it all is a cobnut tree I bought mum one Mother’s Day. We thought the tree was dead but it is fighting on. So hacked back to get to the tree
Then my neighbour came round with gloves and secateurs and we made more of an indent on the other side of the garden. So a productive day all in all
I have loads of cleaning and tidying to do in the house but not as motivated for that!
Back to work tomorrow. Hope to have a productive day. Working Mon-wed this week. Granddads birthday on Monday and he is coming to stop on Thursday. Would be mums birthday on Friday, I say would, it still is iyswim. No sure if we are doing anything, will play it by ear. I think I more apprehensive about people sending and posting messages.
Hi Beki
Yes was looking earlier on for things to do . Have a couple of shows booked in July but hopefully will do something next weekend. There is a museum exhibition I need to fit in that I didn’t have time for last week . Always something to do in London !
Thanks for the suggestion
Love and best wishes
Neil x
It’s hard living in the same place you shared, it’s so strange to come home and not see my mum on the sofa. I live in a housing association flat and they did say they would be keen to downsize me, I think it will do me good to get my own place to put my stamp on. Plus my mum passed in the flat so it will always have that awful memory.
I saw in an earlier post that you fought to stay where you are, I’m guessing you are happy to stay there which is good.
There are plenty of free things to do in London but sometimes it’s just hard to get the motivation, if it’s pre booked it’s easier to get out. I know I’m very new here but I’m also in London if you ever just need a distraction or company then we aren’t far from each other.
The garden is looking great! I’m quite jealous that I’ve only got a balcony, gardening must be a great distraction. The weather looks lovely too! It’s great you have such a lovely neighbour for some help and company.
I have lots of tidying and cleaning to do too but I just can’t seem to motivate myself right now, one step at a time.
It’s definitely still her birthday, that never changes. My mums birthday was on Wednesday and me and my brother just kept it quiet, had a nice lunch together.
I was so tired when I got back from grandchildren and dog sitting yesterday I was in bed by nine thirty.
Today we went to the Cat Cafe in Bedford. Your not allowed to pick the cats up unless they jump up onto your knee themselves, but you can stroke them. They are all rescue cats that no one wants to re-home. It was lovely I really enjoyed it.
No little people are allowed to have be over six. One of the cats sat on my granddaughter’s knee.
Thinking of cats I see you have changed you profile photo @Suzanne30, lovely photo. I hope you enjoyed your weekend at Wicked.
You’ve certainly been hard at work in the garden @Beki, I been crafting not in the same league as you and @christine51 just made a fish for youngster’s to follow at Messy Church next Friday.
Hi Tina,
Doug was young for his age too, but I think having children helped to keep him young as he never thought he would have any. He was married and separated before I met him, it broke down as his first wife didn’t want children.
Doug was 81 when he died, and my oldest sister died the same age the same month. I still have an older sister then it’s me. It’s still very hard losing them even with the age difference, I know some of my family were not happy with the age difference when we first met, but they all grew to love him.
Your right ending things is not allowed, not if we want eternal life.
Sending love Debbie X X
My oldest grandchild, got told off for picking one up, you are allowed to stroke them and if the cat jumps on your knee itself that okay. We had a bet which one would break the rules first and we were right But my other Granddaughter a cat called Alistair sat on her knee for ages. X
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