I am so sorry that your son is going through all this along with grieving his own loss x
I know it’s hard but you need to take care of yourself as you can’t support him if you are running on empty x
I don’t know if any help at all but has your son looked up a support network called CALM cause I believe they are largely male based (but could be wrong in saying that but they may still be able to help) x
Your jubilee plans sound a lot of fun and your granddaughter must be very talented if she’s dancing at the event and you all must be very proud of her x
How are you feeling now? I had never heard of Talking Therapies until recently but heard they are very beneficial so you keep at them if they are not forthcoming x
@Debbie57 that sounds like so much on your and your sons plate but great that he has recognised it and is willing to reach out for help, so many men don’t.
@NEILB72 I used to moan about Granddad watching the soaps when he visited and now I have started watching Eastenders and Corrie, and got sucked back into Doctors
I cooked some steak and chips tonight but the steak tasted odd so just ate the chips. Will have a cuppa and some chocolate in a minute
My mum was a huge fan of bananas! I’m not as keen but ate a small one today. I don’t like milk or milkshakes so those meal replacement things don’t appeal.
Managed to do some work today and about 3.5hrs dozing and napping with Pippin cat listening to the radio Still knackered!
I called CALM once and they were OK. You can only phone them from 5pm to midnight . Suzanne is right they started off for men but now they are similar to Samaritans - Campaign Against Living Miserably -I think that’s right x
Yes that’s the name I couldn’t remember so thank you for the extra information x
I think I receive emails from them occasionally but now I think of it I haven’t seen one in a while.
I know you’ve found a lot of comfort (if that’s the word) from both Cruse and Samaritans so maybe @Debbie57 you could suggest them to your son too x
Intrigued by whats in the glass Suzanne! Cant really work out if its strawberry milkshake or chilled coffee. (I obviously need to get out more)!
Wish I could be a little more productive generally. If I had to clock up all the screen time I spent Id be horrified. I got rid of Tiktok as I would have “just an hour” to unwind when Id gpne to bed but sometimes it would be more like 3. All the willpower of a marble.
I wish I could bottle his cuddles and send them to you all!
@Debbie57 on the Cruse website between 9 and 9 there is the grief chat. That might be a more comfortable way for your son to start opening up and finding the best way for him
I need to go to bed but have a headache. Going to sit up and drink some more water. Crying and not eating much isn’t great for hydration
Hope everyone has a peaceful night and will check in tomorrow xx
Doctors never really took my fancy for some reason! Before I lost my Husband we had started to tape all the episodes of the “Bill” on Drama channel. We had managed to get almost right to the end but didnt manage to. My Husband was a fair bit older than me and we would watch a lot of the old stuff, Randall and Hopkirk etc. Tele isnt the same though when youve noone to share it with is it. Mum lost all interest in it and I dont seem to be bothered myself that.much now.
So pleased Neil youve had some better days. Dont quite know about the long bank holiday, maybe as Im bracing myself for it with dread it wont have such an impact. The last two completely knocked me sideways really. The strange thing is that when the four day holiday was first announced all that time ago I remember me and Mum talking about it and it seemed way into the future and now its here. Isnt time odd. Especially these days.
Hi Tina,
I know what you mean, Doug is alot older than me too, he used to love watching all those Police and Border Control programmes, I haven’t watched one since. Don’t seem to have the concentration to watch TV alot these days. X
Hi Tina
I remember Mum talking about the jubilee not long before she passed and that’s the reason I’ve been dreading it especially as her favourite Cliff Richard is singing at the big concert. Having bank holidays on Thur/Fri is not as bad as a Monday for me. I will still do some shopping tomorrow, washing and bath on Friday as normal and planning something for Saturday.Also weekdays I get nothing but trouble with some financial and other matters to still sort out so on a bank holiday wont have to deal with that for a few days.
No doubt will have some down days soon as we all will I expect but we are all here and so lovely we found each other.
Another Universal Credit appt this morning. Have upped my job search now as I just need to get some more money coming in . Not taking just any job though.
Sending love and best wishes
Neil x
The pink stuff was a rose latte made with oat milk…maybe sounds disgusting but it was delicious lol x
Yeah I do that with TikTok too…just watch a couple of funny videos….2-3 hours later… x
How do you define productive though? Sometimes the most productive thing I do in a day is get dressed and feed the pets and I’ll bet you are to Zoe before you see to yourself…x
Not all productivity has to be on a grand scale so don’t underplay what you achieve on a daily basis xx
Have a peaceful day and look forward to hearing from you xx
Hi everyone,
Luckily yesterday’s vertigo, didn’t develop and after nights sleep the dizziness went. Which I’m glad about, so I was able to do some gardening today. Tidying up all the bluebells in my front garden, I found alot of sticky weed, which I have since found out via Google is called cleavers, or my favourite name sticky willy, that the child in me coming out.
My garden will never be like Christine’s.
I hope your UC meeting went well today Neil and everyone else is okay.
Hi Debbie
Lovely pic. Always like looking at everyone’s pics . Great that you did some gardening. I’m the only one out of us who hasnt got a garden but am in a ground floor flat with a lovely view of flowers and trees and plenty of grass.
UC appt went well thanks and finalising plans for the weekend
Hope you have a good evening
Love and best wishes
Neil x
So after my horrible few days realise I haven’t left the house since last Wednesday!
Was chatting to an acquaintance met through motorsport years ago and stayed Facebook friends. His wife died a couple of weeks before my mum so we sent each other condolences. He doesn’t live far away and when chatting today he suggested he’d come over and take me out for tea as appetite has gone.
Was really nice, not pressurised as we know each other but not super well as to know too much but enough to be comfortable in our shitty situations
Tomorrow a friend is driving 2hrs with her kids to take me on a picnic- I can’t believe it! Hoping these things will help a bit
I have also asked Granddad back down to stay. I’ve realised I need to take the help and support and not try to brave it out on my own. I can’t and I can’t baracade myself from future pain and loss by hiding
Deep thoughts tonight
Neil - glad the UC meeting went okay. I got some paperwork today about mums affairs but can wait till after the weekend.
@Debbie57….gotta love the sticky willies x your garden looks very neat x don’t think any of our gardens will rival Christine’s but we can hope lol x
Glad to hear your vertigo didn’t materialise and hope you are doing ok today x
@NEILB72…pleased to hear your UC meeting went well today and sounds like you have a plan for the weekend when you say ‘finalise plans’…look forward to hearing about them when they are finalised x
@Beki…absolutely accept help from anyone or everyone willing to offer and don’t be too proud to ask for help plus it’s can be a real eye opener when you do…people who you didn’t expect to offer support often step up and those that you thought would take a bullet for you can often disappear…remember those that are there for you.
And you friend to drive 2 hours with kids must really think a lot of you…sounds a great friend to have and enjoy your picnic and meal with your Facebook friend x
@christine51 and @Tina19…you both are in my thoughts and wanted to let you know here when you feel you can post x
@nicnic…get watching Corrie tomorrow so we can discuss lol x
Still knackered! 
lol x
x
