Day of disbelief

Losing a partner
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I think thats why i keep thinking about moving because she died there, no matter how much i rearrange furniture i see me dragging her off the bed to do chest compressions and eventually die in the hallway

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Hiya Marie, do you havevthe option to move or will you struggle. Take your time dont rush into anything you might regret later. I understand what you are saying and my heart goes out to you it truley does. I just dont want you to have regrets later. Hugs Jo xxx

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Today has been a very strange day for me too! My Andy left me on 15th July, it’s 5 weeks today since he last held me in his arms but today I have just felt so numb and in complete disbelief that this has happened! I really can’t comprehend what has happened!! The sheer enormity of the situation is too much :broken_heart::broken_heart::broken_heart::broken_heart:

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This is a devastatingly huge loss in our lives.

Sending you a very big hug.

Rose xx

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The whole situation is regrets, i dont know what to do. I can manage if i move

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My heart goes out to all of you, i understand the lack of motivation, wierd feelings, disbelief…wish we all could change it and it is horrendous i know we cant. Sending love xx

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Hiya Marie only you know what is best for you, nobody can make that decision for you.
You just fo what you think is best, what will bring you the greatest relief.
Hugs Jo xxx

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I moved when my husband died as couldnt cope walking by the area he died and now im thinking of selling again at some point

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Miamoo, did you think also that once on was “our” house now all the things that we had planned are now pointless and it isnt “our” home anymore

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Yes i do , we had long decorated and were planning other things to do inside and outside but no point now, people say remember all the love and happy memories, , why??? Those memories are now over shadowed by what i saw the night i came home and found him. Its a house not out anymore xx

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I’m so sorry you found him like that, I can’t imagine the distress that has caused! Andy was in hospital when he left but when we went to see him in the mortuary, he still had the tube in from the resuscitation attempts. One of my best friends is our funeral director, and seeing him once she’d looked after him helped erase that image for all of us. I hope you can find a way of moving away from that image xxx

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I wish i could, i atill have the vision of my husband dropping foen dead in feont if me and my youngest son and that was 7 years ago and now i have 2 visions :sob:

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I’m so sorry! I really can’t imagine what you’ve been through so all I can send you is my love and hugs xxx

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The hugs are very much appreciated and sending you a massive hug xx

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I went back to work today after 3 months, it was tougher than i thought it would be

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Very brave of you! What line of work are you in? I hope you had good support xx

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Marie zo bet ot was I am 9 weeks in to this horrendous journey and I am barley functioning most days. You were very brave Hugs Jo xx

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Im signed off till end of month then back to work for me, dreading it because of the sympathy i will get and the looks amd whispers, people i work with we are like one big family but still dreading it. Where do you work x

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Sending you big hugs our journeys just eat away at us, always here if you need a chat x

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Ty Miamoo, you all sound so much braver then me all I do is end up in floods of tears, looking for someone anyone to take away this dreaded pain and emptiness. I try and do bits but I dont get far before the tears start again. Everything seems pointless. :confused: Hugs Jo xxx

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