I was diagnosed with breast cancer yesterday and now have to face this alone, I wish Rob was here to help me as my children dont live local to me. I feel very alone in this upcoming journey. It’s treatable, so at least one good thing but still unexpected and frightening when you’ve watched your partner go through treatment for cancer and not survive.
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Hi Punto I’m so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. Make sure you make the most of the resources available.
We are here for you to rant to when you struggling. You not alone on this journey. Sending you hugs 
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Thats sad youre having to go through your cancer diagnosis on your own. A month after my husband died i had to have a small biopsy which was negative thank God. I was so sad my husband wasnt there with me to hold my hand or hug me. I had an ashes necklace made and i wore it to my appointment and just felt that a tiny part of him was with me. I will keep you in my prayers for your peace and quick recovery.
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@Punto That’s really hard for you having to go through this without your partner. I’m glad it’s treatable and I hope you have some friends who will offer you practical support. Perhaps there are some local groups that might be helpful? I found that there were some cancer support groups in my area when I was caring for my husband and they had all sorts of activities and services on offer. Sending you a big hug. X
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The support groups are the same ones that were available gor my husband so im not keen to join as he inly passed away a year ago. But i have friends that will help if i need it.
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I’m so very sorry. That’s so very hard. Sending hugs.
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Sorry to hear of your diagnosis. Try and keep strong. We are here if you need to get things out. Take care.X
Well pre op is booked for next week and operation in 2 weeks. Its not soread to my lymph nodes so.looking much more positive.
Dr says may need chemotherapy but will see once has results how much i need.
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Good luck with everything. Thinking of you. Sending hugs and good vibes your way. 
Well, I’ve had surgery they did a lumpectomy and some node removal, its sore and uncomfortable I get the results in 4 weeks to advise if need further surgery or any other treatment so fingers crossed all will be good. My daughter took me for the operation, and my son drove down from Lincoln to stay with me for 2 nights. Its so hard dealing with illness on your own. You realise how lucky our partners were to have us look after them during their illness, but we unfortunately are alone during ours. I wish Rob was here just to tell me everything will be fine.
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Hi I’m so glad that things went well. Hopefully you won’t need any further treatment. Keep strong.X
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Sending you hugs and prayers for quick recovery. You got this. He is with you. He will help you through. X
So. Dry sorry that you’re having to go through this on top of everything else.
Sending positive thoughts and love your way. Xx
Don’t know where ‘dry’ came from, it was supposed to say ‘very’.
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Glad to hear it went well. 
the results will be okay. It must be hard dealing with it without Rob - I’m so glad you have a lovely daughter and son. xx
My stitches come out on Wednesday and then I can drive again. It’s lonley dealing with everything on my own but its made me stronger and have a more positive outlook on life. There is little point sitting and feeling sorry for myself time to grab life by the horns and do all the things I want to do before the years pass and I’ve done nothing.
@Punto It’s great to hear you so positive. I think you’re right. I’m beginning to realise that I have to decide whether my life is over now too - I’m only 63, or make the most of the time I have left. The only problem is that I feel so lonely without him. There’s a lot to learn about alone when I’ve been part of a couple since I was 21. I don’t yet know what I want out of the rest of my life and I guess time will help with that. Thank you for sharing your story- it does help.
If it helps I was diagnosed with Myeloma Cancer in June and just like you I’m having to deal with it alone. I got to the half way stage of my Chemo treatment, Injections. I understand what you going through even though obviously it’s a different kind of cancer. I lost mum a year 21st August too.
Are you getting support Maggie’s or MacMillan ? if not then reach out to them, after all that’s what they there for.
I wish you all the best, not easy to deal with. Please make sure you get all the support available to you! x
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Hi i am 61, i went to primary school with Rob then we became a couple at 16. We had a few years apart due to our careers he was in the Army and I joined the Women’s Royal Navy. But we eventually spent over 36 happy years together. I guess I spent most of my life knowing Rob.
I have support its hard as my husband only had a short diagnosis with his cancer and I really dont want to have to deal with the same nurses, but I guess I will have to depending on my next stage of treatment.