Hi Lovel
Yes i do know exactly how you feel, 
, its so tough, my daughter was 24, when she passed away 5th Nov 2022, i left my job in Jan this year, i also sleep a lot, late nights, iv been told its normal to feel like we do, the nightmares, i see her, she talks to me, always calm, and beautiful, then you wake up. The reality of it all hits you, its exhausting, you feel angry cause everyone is moving on, her life is less brought up in conversation, but we had them in our lives, remember them for there smile, laugh just being part of us. Take care xx
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Our beautiful amazing daughter passed on 2nd Jan 2025 from Brain Cancer. She was the most amazing daughter & business woman. She left an amazing legacy for her children. I am struggling to accept sheās gone, she tried everything to stay with us even travelling to Germany in December for immunotherapy unfortunately it was too late & she passed away 4 weeks later at the hospice, I really feel the NHS let her down badly.
I struggle daily & miss her so much. I myself was diagnosed with Cancer & I survived āWhyā I would willing give my life to have her back.
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Hi Oatcake 57
Im so sorry to read about your daughter, she, like my daughter sounds like an amazing person, its tough, i know how you feel, sending my love and a big 
hug. Take care your not alone xx
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I am hoping to start counselling within the next couple of weeks through my employer. I thought I would be able to manage just with support from my family but itās not been the case. I cry every day, I miss Michelle so much, I have a knot in the centre of my chest which grows tighter as the day moves on. I find it difficult to accept that she is not coming back to me. I spent the last 10 weeks of her life living at the hospice with her, sleeping in her room each night and sharing her days. My days are now empty and I donāt feel ready to return to work. I want to hid away from the world. I really do hope that counselling will help me. I would love to find a group who meet in person but there isnāt one in my area.
I so know where you are coming from, I struggle daily I like you miss my beautiful daughter so much. Life goes on around me but I donāt feel like moving forward, I donāt want to ( as my husband says) accept the new normal, thereās a piece of our jigsaw missing & there will never be a new normal for me I just want the old normal back.
Not really coping at the moment but itās early days only 8 weeks have passed since I lost her my heart really is broken.
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Hi, i know i would give up anything, even winning the lottery would not solve how we feel, i often think of times with my daughter, certain things make us laugh, only she would get, i miss her so much, im a different person, its worse than a life sentence, no one gets it. However she would not want me to be sad, ( though i am, just on auto pilot most of the time) we have to carry on and keep their memory alive, because they were part of our being, i feel for sure they are beside us every minute night and day xx
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Itās a parentās worse nightmare loosing a child you never think it will be you. I will never get over it the loss and heart ache is always there. I am trying to build a life round my grief because my lovely daughter would want me to. I owe her this as she was so brave and strong through out her journey joking and laughing. Always smiling even on her bad days and believe me there was many and for all the love she gave us.
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Dear Oatcake57
You lost your darling daughter 8 weeks ago and I lost mine 7 weeks ago, aged 42 years. I feel you grief, pain and desperation that we cannot go back to how it was. By searching on-line Iāve found an in person support group in my area. They are next meeting on 12 March and I am planning to attend. I believe that meeting in-person someone who feels the grief I am feeling might help me cope better with my loss. My daughter was cremated on 6 February we are now waiting for a date to have her ashes interred with her fatherās. Michael, who died when Michelle was 10 years old.
When I am really down, I think of all the people on this forum and realise that I am not alone. You are not alone. Take care of yourself.
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I also believe that my daughter is close by, I talk to her (out loud) every day. Earlier this week I was going through a terrible time, I said āMichelle, I not coping very well at the moment, please my darling send me a sign to let me know you are close by. I love you so much.ā I went down stairs to let the dog into the garden and there, caught on our garden hedge, was a red heart balloon. Instinct told me it was from Michelle. Itās now in the house and I know Iāll keep that balloon forever.
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My, the group I go to is meeting next on the 12th too. Perhaps it is the same one. It helps to be around people that get what you are going through. Perhaps I will see you there if itās the same group.
I lost my daughter on the 9.2.25 . Life is so difficult without her . I cry and sob every day . I to think how will I cope and live the rest of my life without her . We were so close she was 31 but still lived at home . Itās so difficult just to get up in the mornings I hardly eat anymore and Iām so angry at her loss. I hide away from my friends canāt face anyone . I am still struggling at the thought of never seeing her beautiful face again .
Iām so sorry for your loss. Your daughter died one month and two days after I lost my darling daughter, aged 42. We were also very close, did so much together, I was present at the birth of all three of her children now aged, 16, 14, and 12 years. I grieve for my own loss but also that of my grandchildren having to go through life without their amazing mum. I hide away from friends and neighbours too. I speak to my daughter daily, I tell her how much I love her and how much I miss her. I ask her to give me strength to get through difficult days. She was such a brave woman and went through horrendous treatment hoping it would give her more time with her family. She died 17 months after her cancer diagnosis.
Iām so sorry about the loss of your lovely daughter . Life can be so cruel . I have had a painful day today cried most of it just numb with grief .
My meeting is in Haverhill. It will be the first time Iāve attended. Iām hoping that by talking to people who know my pain, because they also feel it, will help me. What a coincident if it turns out to be the same meeting that you are attending.
Can I ask does anyone suffer from panic attack feelings . I just get so overwhelmed at the thought of never seeing my daughter again . Itās the most awful feelings like the world is closing in on you .
So sorry for your loss. Everyone goes through grief differently. I couldnāt go out or be around people just was overwhelmed with sadness. Very tearful. Your whole life is turned upside down you can not relate to how much you miss them. I have joined a grief group which helps me realise we are not alone. Also helps to talk to people that are going through similar grief. I hope you find your way stay strong.
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Thank you for the response. I feel so guilty as Iām completely falling apart . My son who is grieving for his sister is also seeing his mum like this . Every day is getting worse . I think talking to people who have been through a loss of a child will help a bit .
Yes, I also get that panic feeling when the thought of never seeing Michelle again becomes totally overwhelming. I breakdown and cry, itās a feeling of being totally helpless and unable to change anything. Iām hoping to meet people next Wednesday, at a group meeting, who I feel I can talk to.
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I hope all goes well for you at the meeting it helped me. I am going to go regular.