Donāt know what to say but you have all my sympathy so sad I hope you feel peace.xx
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Omg Iām so sorry to hear this, such an awful time for you. Please keep in touch on here as it really does help as we all understand and know what you are going through.x
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RIP Nick and love light and strength to you at this very sad time.xx
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So sorry for your loss message anytime xx
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Thank you x
I came home, did the washing and cleaned the house!
Went to the home with Nickās brother and picked his clothes up and toiletries.
Walked the dogs with my son.
First day of really good weather and an amazing sunset 
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Mandy do whatās right for you and take it hour by hour, then day by day. Just do whatās right for you we are different and deal with things in our own way. Thereās no right or wrong way to deal with this.x
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There are no words that can bring you any comfort, just to let you know we are all here for you. Heās at peace now, no more pain and suffering. You need to get some rest as itās physically and mentally exhausting, remember take things hour by hour as you will be in a state of shock and numbness
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Just take it easy and be kind to yourself x
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Hi @MandyC15 Iām so sorry to hear that your husband Nick has died. I hope you have people around that can support you at this very difficult time. Sending love.x
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Sending you all my best wishes Mandy, try to rest as much as you can. X
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Thank you everyone 
Does any of you live in the North West? Wirral or Liverpool.
Id love to meet up with someone who going through this too 
Sorry Mandy I am too far away from you, but I will answer if you stay with this group. Take it easy Precious xx
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Thank you xx
Ive got to go to the Chapel of rest tomorrow with Nicks twin brother
That will be hard Mandy, will be thinking of you , such a sad time sending you love and light 
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Its just to talk moneyā¦ what we want the funeral to be like.
I dont think we will be able to visit Nick until friday.
His mum has a family plot, so Nick is getting buried.
Im dreading it. Ive only been to cremations before x
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My Husband is buried Mandy something that we both wanted, as in time I will be with him. I find it comforting as I have somewhere to"visit" him.I can understand your apprehension as both of my parents want to be cremated. We had a lovely very private ceremony totally outside as it was just after the start of covid.Take it easy, take great care precious x
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Hello Mandy, I havenāt commented before because Iāve only just caught up with notifications from this group today.
My situation is a little different to yours in that Iāve just lost my Dad and my mum is at end of life stage. 10 weeks before my Dad died my partner ended our relationship suddenly ( he had been cheating with someone else for months I found out afterwards) ā¦ I grieve the loss of him in a different way. My Dad was my hero and Iām lost. Iām 24/7 with my mum now. Nobody understands the pain Iām going through.
I live in Liverpool so if you want to message me at any stage please do get in touch.
Iām so sorry for your loss of Nick . At the moment you will be in shock and it does get worse after the funeral when things sink inā¦ so please donāt be feeling alone. We are all here.
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Hi Nima
As far as your partner is concernedā¦ cheatingā¦ you are better off without him.
Aww youve definitely been through it havenāt you.
Yes, id meet you in Liverpool. Im going tomorrow to get clothes for the funeral but maybe thats too soon.
Ive been busy funeral arranging.
Im finding it difficult as the only person i would want to go to a party with is Nick.
He was my best friend and love.
We did everything together.
On a Saturday, even though we both drive. We would hop on the bus and go to Liverpool. Get some food, go to an exhibition if there was one on.
Look round the shops, get a couple of cocktails and go home. I used to say, we must be getting oldā¦ going out in the dayā¦ and back home in the day. But, 54 definitely wasnt old.
We had so much more we wanted to do.
The funeral will be tough. Building a life again without Nick will be harder.
Mandy x
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Mandy sending love and light to you, like me you seem to have had your familiar daytime routine, we used to say we have got old. Like your Nick my Husband never got old either.l hope you get someone who is supportive to help you out. X
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@Ilovehorses
Thank you for thinking of me.
No, no support.
I hate Saturdays. Nick passed away on a Saturday. Everyone is living their own lives, which is understandable.
Today i went to Liverpool with my son and got him trousers for the funeral.
Liverpool was really busy but not the same without Nick.
Lifeās never going to be the same again.
My son has gone out with his friends, which he should.
Im going to go back to work in june, hopefully. Otherwise, ill probably go mad. Listening to our music, looking at photos.
I could be in a room full of people and still feel alone 
I hope youre ok? X
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