Likewise, straight from my parents to married life for 54 years. So sure I have seen Michael laying in bed next to me, then look again and he’s no longer there. 10 months now and have good days and terrible days when I am feeling so tired and depressed. Feel like my life has been taken from me.
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Hi Kat1984, just to answer your question ‘ how do atheists deal with death?’, well having asked some atheist friends the answer has always been ‘ By living life ‘, which does kinda make sense if you thinks about it
I think it really depends on your perspective. I’m at the point where I’m just getting on with the life I now have to lead, whether there is anything afterwards or not. However, to me it’s a very depressing thought that this is it. Why go through the rigmarole of getting married, having children, working the majority of our life just to die anyway? 
as you can see I’m not in the best of moods.
Maybe the point of life is to not reproduce and just die out. If there is nothing more it does make you wonder what drives every species to reproduce.
You leave a legacy and the people that come after learn from that
Kat1984
Sorry to hear your not in the best of moods hopefully posting on here will help a little x
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To me that just doesn’t seem enough.
I truly believe there must be something more. Where as atheists find god unrealistic, I look at how beautiful the view is when I climb a hill, for example, from the clouds to the minor details on each flower. To me it seems impossible all of this just evolved from nothing. I think if it did we wouldn’t feel love so deeply, or the need to reproduce or raise our children well so they survive, to me that has to be for a reason.
I think my faith is just not as strong since losing my husband. I thought I’d have felt a connection that he’s still here, in some form, which I haven’t. I don’t believe in all that white feather stuff.
I guess it’s whatever gets you through. I just know I was a lot happier when I believed more.
Hi
I think we’d all like to believe there’s something more when we die and how lovely would it be to be with our loved ones again. Sadly I don’t believe there is. Initially when John died I looked for signs - I even went to a psychic afternoon - what a joke that was. In fact I giggled all the way home knowing John would be so mad at all that “twaddle” as he would have put it.
So now I live what life I have left the best way I can and of course i talk to him because it gives me comfort. But will I meet up with him ? I don’t think so. He’s gone and I’m still here with a heart that will never mend so I just carry on 
Oh how I would love to be wrong 
BIG love
Georgina
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Yes that’s pretty much what my grief has done to me. However I’d like to try and believe again as life really is better having faith.
It does also scare me to think when we die we will cease to exist. I know we won’t know, but whilst we are alive it’s a scary thought.
I am interested in near death experiences though. Strange how most people say the same and science can’t give answers. As the brain should shout down within 20 seconds of the heart. Although that’s not the case for some.
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I keep on going in the hope that one day I will be reunited with Michael, can’t bear the thought of never being together again.
Don’t think we will ever know the answer while we are alive but faith does keep me going.
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It is interesting to read what other people believe or don’t believe. I used to believe in God but since my husband died in an accident I’m not sure anymore. I would have prayed for our safety on the roads and in general. I just never prayed that my husband wouldn’t die in an accident at work. I couldn’t square what I had believed to what happened to him. A neighbour of mine trying to comfort me said, he is with us, he knows what’s going on in your lives, I told her that I believed he didn’t know what was happening in our lives, because if my children were having bad lives with heart ache in them, that would cause my husband anguish, so I don’t believe he is with us. For me, wherever “there” is, I believe we’re either there or here, we can’t be in both places, just as we are not in both places whilst here. I don’t talk to my husband because I believe he is there, but I do talk to myself a lot! But obviously we get through this whatever way we can. As for white feathers, I’ve never heard of this and don’t know its significance, but I had to smile because I have a white hen and a white duck and I have white feathers all over the place.
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I have felt like this recently. I too thought i was dealing with my loss of my partner in November but last few days i feel so down and miss him more than ever xx
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Basically If you see a white feather they say a loved one is near. I think they assume they are now angels and it’s come from the wings???
I don’t know why people think that.
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Thanks, I’ve learnt something new. I suppose it brings comfort to some, the same with Robins. Like you Jan271 I never realised how this journey would or could be so up and down. When I think back to my mother when my dad died, we practically never talked about him again for years. I’ve really know idea what she was going through, the only thing she used to say was it’s a “savage separation”.
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It is so hard to know what to believe but i feel that whatever helps you through each day then that’s what you hold onto . Since my brother passed away i have had a robin sit on my lawnmower when i took a break from mowing the lawn and his favorite songs when i get in the car and switch the radio on…somedays it makes me sad and cry other days they seem to be a source of comfort x we are all getting through the days somehow the rough ones and the smooth x sending you all love n hugs xxx
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