I’m curious to know has anyone had their partners visit them in their dreams? I’ve only had 2, in one he didn’t speak and last night he said sorry but I didn’t see his face 
I wake up for a second thinking it’s all been a joke and he’s still here, I don’t
Know if it’s cruel or if I should be happy??
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Hi, yes I have only had a couple but in my first one I was confused when I saw him and said you died. I told him that I had dreamt about his death and his funeral, how many people attended and everything that happened and it seemed so real. We laughed about it.
It was so real and vivid. When I woke up it took a while for it to sink in that it was a dream.
My daughter had one and he was sitting on the sofa at hers watching TV and told her to stop feeling guilty nobody could do anything. She said it was so real too.
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Hi @Ang5 @Lou33
My husband passed away on 8th June 2023.
I had a dream on new years day 1st Jan i it he told me not to worry. I was so convinced when i woke up he was still alive and then realised he wasn’t.
Life is strange 
Lynne
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@Lou33 @Galaxy75 i want to desperately believe he’s with me, these are the only 2 things I’ve had, he passed away 4th December 2023 
I just wish I could get more, maybe I’m too desperate and it’s not happening or I’m missing the other things, I’d give anything for him back, even one last chance to tell him again how much I love him, I wasn’t there when he passed away but i was the one who found him, I have massive guilt, wishing I’d been there, everyone says I couldn’t of done a thing but I’d like to of found out myself
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I lost my husband ten months ago on the 26 th March. I have only had a couple of dreams and do wonder why I haven’t had more.
I was with my husband who suffered a cardiac arrest. I did CPR, he never regained conciseness and died two days later.
It is still very early days for you. Everything will still be so raw. When I look back at those early months I am not sure how I got through them but I did.
I hope you have support around you. Take care.
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Life is very strange. The realisation after the dream is just awful 
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@Lou33 sorry for late reply, I fell asleep, no dreams last night, just woke up not long ago thinking another weekend is here and he’s not, I used to love Saturdays cos I would stay at his, food films and a few drinks, doesn’t sound exciting but it was the best for me, I had a lot of people at the beginning but everyone’s drifted back to their lives now, nobody asks how I am anymore, the odd one from work cos I’m on the sick might ask but it’s rare, I think people don’t know what to say to me anymore, I hope you have a lot of support, I’ve never felt so lonely and isolated it’s horrendous
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I’m sorry you don’t have much support and no need to be sorry. You sleep when you can you will need it. I typed that when I first woke as you can prob tell from the spelling mistakes I made ha.
It has been and still is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through in my life but I am now starting to sort my life out and decide where I go from here. I try to keep busy. Just take one day at a time. Other people don’t know what to say and don’t understand how it feels no matter how much they try.
I have the support of my son and daughter and their partners and a couple of close friends.
You will find lots of support on here. It has helped me and hope it helps you.
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Hi @Ang5
Yes it really is not good if you have no support or someone just to talk too.
Everyone says just let me know if you need anything in the beginning. But we dont want to approach them. Maybe they could make the effort to call or visit that would make it easier.
People are just do busy nowadays or dont understand grief of loving a partner.
I hate being in this house now so try to occupy my week by going out but a weekends it is harder.
You can always speak on this forum to others who know exactly how your feeling 
Take care and look after yourself
Lynne Xx
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@Ang5 I’m nearly a year in after the sudden death of my partner. I’ve had a few dreams, I know because I keep a diary and go back and read it, it’s amazing what you forget lol. But there are two dreams that I do remember. The first one was not pleasant, he kept walking away from me and I couldn’t catch up with him. I followed him but only ever saw the back of him as he was always walking away, as I walked in one door, he would be walking out the next.
The second dream was very clear, he came back, said he’d just been on a bike ride, I was ecstatic. It felt very real, we hugged, we kissed, then we went out and had a great day, then he asked me to look out, what did I see, I saw nothing, just empty fields in the distance, he said look again and as I did I saw everything, birds, worms, butterflies, lots of things, really clearly. He said, just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean it’s not there! Then I woke up.
I felt very conforted after this one. A lot lighter.
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Gi @Ali29
What a lovely post to read on such a dark wet Sunday
I am trying to sort out some paperwork from my husbands work and he kept everything even expenses back to 2009.
Feel like im destroying his life by doing so but none of these pieces of paper mean anything - except he worked hard and should have enjoyed his retirement he didnt quote get there he was 63.
Take care and enjoy the rest of this Sunday
Lynne x
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My angel passed away over 8 nmonths ago while at work, collapsed on the pavement at lunch time. I was so cut up about not having been there with him during his last moment. I could not stop thinking about how lonely he must have felt and that I wasn’t there to comfort or help him. One night not long after, he came into my dream and stood still at the landing I jumped and hugged him so hard telling him I was so happy to see, hug and say goodbye to him. It must have been several minutes before he slowly faded away into the wall behind him. I got up in the morning and thanked him for letting me say goodbye and releasing me from that horrible guilt and despair.
The second time, I was about to meet up with his best friend for a coffee and he came again a couple of nights before. In the dream he was sitting with me in a cafe but away from his friend so I asked why wouldn’t he go and say hello to his friend and he said very sadly that his friend didn’t seem exited to see him so he chose to sit away.
The third time only a few days ago, I had a panic evening when the fuse was blown when I was turning the bedroom light on and I was so stress and could not go to sleep that night. Finally, so tired I fell asleep very late and there he was in my dream, sitting very still and let me hug him again for a very long moment - I believe he came to comfort me in a way to help me not to be anxious and scared. I got up in the morning free of stress and anxiety - believing very strongly that he is really watching over me and I am so grateful for his loving and caring - as he always was when he was alive. (My love, I hope you are at peace wherever you are - I love and miss you much more than I can say 
).
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I love reading other peoples stories of dreams, I’m just so desperate for him to visit me every night but then I can only think he doesn’t as he’s visiting other people too, his son, his family I played his favourite song last night before I went to bed, imagine by John Lennon, cried as soon as it started, I played it for him in the morgue as I sat stroking his hair, he used to love me stroking his hair, he used to fall asleep I’d give anything to feel his hair again I’ve been to his grave today, took some roses, just hope storm isha doesn’t take them away!
Storm isha is so loud outside. The last time we had massive storm my angel’s grave was heavily flooded I had to call the council to fix it I hope it doesn’t happen again. I go there at weekends so I have to wait until then to find out:crossed_fingers:
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@Angel1309 fingers crossed your angels grave isn’t touched this time, it’s really upsetting seeing things like that, we know it’s just nature but it’s still not nice on my way out the little cemetery I shut the wooden gate as it was banging loudly, I knew he would hate that repetitive noise but soon as I crossed the road it had blew open Again these little things what occupy our minds
@Ang5
I cried when I got to the cemetery and saw it submerged completely like a pond, I was so devastated and deeply sorry to think that my angel was down there, alone. Every weekend when I am there I talk to him and tell him he doesn’t belong there he should still be by my side. The thought of him lying down there hurts me deeply and every weekend it’s the same, sadly
Fingers crossed for this weekend x
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@Angel1309 thats horrible for you to see I’m exactly the same when I go, so unfair, I used to think I was the only one who thought Like that but I’m clearly not alone, it’s horrific I hope your ok
@Ang5 we are going exactly the same horrendous experience and we understand each other so please be reassured you are not the only one.
We are all here to support one another through out this horrible trauma.
I am as okay as I can be thank you and hope you are too 
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I have had a few horrible dreams about my husband who suddenly and unexpectedly died with a blood clot and undiagnosed kidney cancer which we never knew about. I had 3 dreams that he didn’t want to know me and told me it was over between us and he was very cold to me. I also had a few dreams that my husband told me that he is dying with cancer. I spent the days very upset. Not had a dream about my husband now for a couple of weeks or so.
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So sad when the dreams were not what we expected them to be. It’s a mystery how dreams come about - we will never know.
Take care x
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